Why you REALLY shouldn’t have sex on the first date

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  • Scientific proof that making men wait for sex pays off

    It’s the old adage that we tell each other time and time again: we should make men wait before we sleep with them. According to new research, it’s proven to work.

    A group of mathematicians have concluded that women are more likely to bag a ‘good’ man if they make him wait for sex.

    They developed a numerical model that worked out that ‘better’ men were willing to wait for a bit of nookie, whereas ‘bad’ men were reluctant to hang around.

    ‘Longer courtship is a way for the female to acquire information about the male,’ Professor Robert Seymour, of University College London, told the Independent.

    ‘By delaying mating, the female is able to reduce the chance she will mate with a bad male. A male’s willingness to court for a long time is a signal that he is likely to be a good male.

    ‘Long courtship is a price paid for increasing the chance that mating, if it occurs, will be a harmonious match which benefits both sexes. This may help to explain the commonly held belief that a woman is best advised not to sleep with a man on a first date.’

    Dr Peter Sozou, of Warwick Medical School, added, ‘The strategic problem a female faces is how to screen out bad males, and this is where long courtship comes into play. A male is assumed to always want to mate with a female, but a good male is more willing to pay the cost of a long courtship to claim the prize of mating.’

    ‘The female’s strategy is a compromise, a trade-off.’

    But what can we do to avoid the dud men altogether? Unfortunately, nothing.

    Dr Sozou said, ‘She cannot eliminate this risk completely unless she decides never to mate.’



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