These are the 11 best dildos for women to use during solo or partnered sex
According to our board of certified sex experts.
So, you're on the hunt for the best dildo but don't know where to start. For most people, the volume, variety, price, and techno-jargon can make shopping for the best sex toys feel overwhelming. But introducing items like dildos or vibrators into your bedroom should be exciting — so we're here to maintain the buzz with these expert-recommended picks.
Firstly, some need-to-knows: dildos are toys designed for internal stimulation. In 2022, they come in (literally) all shapes and sizes and boast a lot of features — think vibrations, textures, temperatures, and angles that will hit your G-spot. Plus, they're popular: according to a 2021 survey, a dildo is the second most popular sex toy with 30% of the country owning one, beaten only by a vibrator.
It's important to remember that what gets you going is unique and personal. Some people might need some clitoral stimulation alongside the penetration, which can be achieved with rabbit-style dildos or by using your or your partner's hands alongside the inserted toy. A dildo alone might do it for you, but you might want to be strategic about the size and shape for optimum pleasure.
No idea where to start? Here, some of the best sex experts in the game explain what a dildo is, how to use a dildo, and below, their dildo recommendations (including the best suction dildos, too). Keep scrolling for picks from sexologist Ness Cooper, Jordan Dixon, a clinical psychosexual and relationship psychologist, and Aysha Bell, a master trainer of tantra and self-massage coach. For more expert-recommended toys, scroll our guides to the best sex toys for couples, best Amazon sex toys, and best vibrators.
What the experts looked for in the best dildos:
- Vibration: Some people prefer a manual dildo whereas others like it to be electronic so it can vibrate or pulsate.
- Noise: If you're opting for a vibrating dildo, you might want to take noise level into account, especially if you live with other people. Luckily, there are many silent vibrators out there.
- Water resistance: Keen to use it in the bath or shower? Make sure any electronic devices are waterproof.
- Design: Some dildos are very penis-like while others are more abstract, so take your turn ons into consideration.
- Price: Luxury sex toy brands have amazing toys, but you don't need to spend a lot for pleasure.
Best dildos: 11 to buy now, according to the experts
Pros: Glass | Dual pleasure | Gender fluid.
What the experts say: Jordan Dixon says: "This dildo is art you can fuck. Stellar pieces are contoured and hand sculpted to work with the natural curves of our bodies, with tapered shafts at either end for using simultaneously with a playmate or on your own for solo fun."
"With different textures and shapes, it can be used for anal play, vulvas, or glided around anywhere else on the body. If you're into sensation play, you can choose to cool down in the fridge or warm up in a glass of warm water for a few minutes beforehand to amplify sensations."
"I understand people may be nervous about using glass, but as long as the dildos were actually made for sex play (and are not just a glass ornament we find on our grandma's shelf) then they're safe and *almost* the least breakable glass thing on the planet."
Pros: Stainless steel | G-spot massager | Weighted
What the expert says: This high-end dildo is all about hitting the G-spot with its smooth, curved design. "This is a legendary sex toy for a reason," says Ness Cooper. "The shape can feel a bit intense at first so make sure you warm-up with foreplay. Due to the steel being cold to touch you may want to warm it under a warm tap before your solo sex session or experiment with temperature play to add to the excitement."
Pros: Suction | Great for beginners | Silicone
What the expert says: "This is a very cute pastel perfect sex toy," says Jordan Dixon. "It’s ideal for all bodies, genders and all sexualities and works well for beginners and those who are more seasoned sex toy adventurers."
"The dildo is made from high-quality, medical grade non-porous silicone to ensure safety and durability. It also doubles up with a host of strap-on harnesses if you wish to partake. The suction cup on this toy offers so much creativity on how and where you use this dildo, including shower wall, mirrors, and floors — virtually anything that's smooth, clean, and hard. It’s firm and solid enough for penetration and flexible enough to add comfortability and more importantly some spicy fun."
Pros: Glass | Textured design | Great for massage
What the expert says: "This dildo set is amazing for those wanting to try something different. With textures to explore and unique insertable shapes, you'll be able to find the type that best suits you. These glass dildos also are amazing when used to massage out tight knots during erotic massage and can glide smoothly over the body with massage oil," says Ness Cooper.
Pros: Dual stimulation | Multiple settings
What the expert says: While this toy is technically a vibrator, not a dildo, it's one of Aysha Bell's favourites as it can be both, working for both internal and external stimulation.
"I love this luxury rechargeable rabbit vibrator because of the incredible design," she says. "With a rounded shaft for easy insertion and a flexible clitoral stimulator for pinpoint massages, it's tailored sensation at its best. There are also twelve individually adjustable vibration settings which can up the intensity of your arousal."
Pros: Realistic | G-spot stimulation | Good for anal
What the expert says: This penis-like dildo is great for those who prefer realistic, textured toys. "The tip offers great pressure on the G-spot while the length of the shaft also allows for deeper play which is great if you enjoy cervix stimulation. The flared base makes it a top sex toy for anal and the shape allows for easy penetration. The bonus is it's glittery and looks less intimidating than other realistic-style dildos when put on a strap-on," says Ness Cooper.
Pros: G-spot stimulation | Multiple settings
What the experts say: Another vibrator that can act as a dildo, Aysha Bell recommends this toy for it's silicone detail, saying: "This does exactly what it says on the tin — reaches the G spot for serious stimulation. It's soft to touch and has multiple settings to serve the most sensitive to the most intense pleasure seekers."
Pros: Ceramic | Weighted
What the expert says: "This is just pure art," says Jordan Dixon. "An elegantly shapely ceramic dildo with a delicate rose print that glides anywhere. What I love about this bespoke handprinted beauty is it is hollow with a cork stop so you can fill it with cool or warm liquid for temperature and weight play. It adds a totally new rhythmic sensation can that bring new and refreshing pleasure."
While the Coco de Mer dildo is currently out of stock, this independent Etsy will offer a similar sensation. Just add a cork stop to basket to enhance temperature play.
Pros: Suction cup | G-spot stimulation
What the expert says: The suction cup on this sex toy means you can stick to a hard floor, wall or mirror for sturdy solo sex. "The shape on this dildo is fabulous for the G-spot," says Ness Cooper. "The smooth silicone and slimline shape means it's great to use in the bath or even on the side of the shower."
Pros: Great for beginners | Good for anal
What the expert says: This is the perfect beginner dildo, according to Ness Cooper, as it's made from soft and flexible silicone. "It's easy to insert and is a top sex toy for those looking to pop their anal cherry for the first time as it's so comfortable," she says. Just remember the lube.
Pros: Triple stimulation | Silicone
What the expert says: "This is a beautiful length for internal stimulation and the others are for clitoral and anal stimulation which can be ramped up with vibration and pulsation," says Jordan Dixon.
How do you use a dildo?
Surprisingly enough, yes, this question is Googled a lot.
Dildos can be used in the vagina, anus, or mouth. Georgia Di Mattos, co-founder of sexual wellness and medical brand iPlaySafe recommends trying to insert it yourself to begin with. Using some lube may help, as will making sure you've got the right sized dildo for you.
Dildos are designed to reach your G spot and internally stimulate you. "That said, if you're not so keen on inserting the dildo so deep that it reaches your G spot, you can enter it partly and rotate gently for a different kind of pleasure. This will still stimulate the body," the expert shares.
