Best remote vibrators: 5 best to buy for partnered play, according to sex experts
Ready to let someone else take control?
Fun fact: investing in one of the best remote vibrators is a great way to spice up your sex life. With all the stimulation of one of the best vibrators but powered with a remote control or an app, they're known for being amazing for partnered sex from afar.
While remote vibrators can be bullet vibrators, wand vibrators or rabbit vibrators, most are small — the benefit being that you can use them anywhere and everywhere. Yes, anywhere — people like to opt for remote vibrators as a way of enjoying sexual pleasure discreetly and in public.
According to a survey by Superdrug, people are keen to be turned on outside the bedroom. At least 56% of men and 43% of women admitted that the idea of having sex in public was a turn-on, and remote sex toys can be a great way to get the thrill without breaking the rules.
"These compact, remote vibes are great to be worn in your knickers while out and about, and many are now connected to clothing with a magnet for security," says sexologist Ness Cooper.
Not only can you be teased by a partner on the other side of the room, but some can also be controlled by partners on the other side of the world. Just place the device where you want it for stimulation and let them use an app for vibrations.
Not sure where to start with the best remote vibrators? We asked the below panel of experts for their recommendations. Don't miss our guide to the best vibrators on Amazon, while you're here. Our pros include:
- Ness Cooper, clinical sexologist and sex toy reviewer
- Stacy Rybchin, sexual health and wellness educator and founder of My Secret Luxury
- Zoë Ligon, sex influencer and founder and CEO of Spectrum Boutique
- Edwina Caito, sexpert from Bed Bible
What to look for in a remote vibrator:
- Distance: The first thing to consider is how nearby or far away you want to be from the person controlling the toy. If you are the controller, then distance isn't a worry, but if someone else will be giving you pleasure then you'll need one to extend the distance they'll be operating from next to you, another room or oceans away.
- Remote or app: Do you want to use a proper remote to crank up the vibrations using Bluetooth? Perhaps you prefer to discreetly press 'up' on an app on your phone? There's an option for everyone.
- Discreetness: Consider whether you need a toy small and sturdy enough to wear outside of the house or whether size doesn't matter.
Best remote vibrators: 5 to try
1. Best affordable remote vibrator
"This toy is one of the best remote control and app-based sex toys I've tried," says Cooper. "They function so well from a distance and the shapes of the various sex toy designs are perfect for different individual needs and wants. The wearable vaginal sex toy can be used during vaginal penetration or leave it in your underwear for fun when out."
Do note, though: users have fed back that it takes a little getting used to, but once you get the hang of how to use it, it's a lot of fun.
Pros
- Remote control and app-based
- Functions well from afar
- Various shapes and sizes
- Internal and external
- Magnetic.
Cons
- Takes some getting used to.
2. Best discreet remote vibrator
"This is a wearable, remote-controlled external panty vibrator with a contoured shape that lets you take the fun, rumbly vibrations with you wherever you go. Designed to be worn under your clothes, it is held in place by a slip-proof magnet and comes with a remote or app for discreet controlling," says Rybchin.
It's worth bearing in mind that this toy sits at a higher price point than a few other competitors, that said, the experts and reviewers love it. Naturally, if you don't like the idea of someone else controlling your sex toy, it might be worth opting for a different sex toy altogether.
Pros
- Remote controlled
- Contoured shape
- Wearable
- External
- Discreet.
Cons
- Higher price point.
3. Best remote vibrator for staying in place
"The Ferri is a small yet powerful magnetic panty vibrator that doesn't move while it gives you pleasure. It can stimulate your clitoris while you stand, walk, sit, dance or lie for pleasure. It is small enough to not feel bulky when it’s switched off, but it's powerful when it's on," adds Rybchin.
Downsides in mind, it comes at a higher price point and might be too small for some.
Pros
- Remote controlled
- Small yet powerful
- Magnetic
- Doesn't move
- Doesn't feel bulky.
Cons
- Higher price point
- Smaller than competitors.
4. Best internal remote vibrator
"As a whole, Lovense really has perfected the art of remote control vibrators. Everything in their line is remote controllable, including the Lush which can be used for internal stimulation of your lover across the globe," says Ligon.
"This has become the go-to remote control vibrator for all kinds of fun. The egg-style massager features powerful vibrations directly to your G-spot while being quiet enough to enjoy wherever you go," adds Caito.
While again, this toy comes at a higher price point, it's a worthy investment judging by what the experts had to say.
Pros
- Remote controlled
- Internal
- Powerful yet quiet.
Cons
- Higher price point
- Not as discreet as competitors.
5. Best beginner remote vibrator
Our experts may not have tested this themselves, but with an average rating of 4.5 stars from 100+ reviews on Lovehoney, it's clearly one of the standout toys to buy. One verified Lovehoney reviewer wrote: "We've been using this for a couple of months now and it's really great fun - especially good on a naughty night at a restaurant on holiday. Thoroughly recommended."
Some users commented on the vibration pattern being weaker than competitor toys, while others shared that it's on the noisier end of the scale (read our edit of the best quiet sex toys and quiet sex positions, here).
Pros
- Remote controlled
- Internal
- Discreet.
Cons
- Vibration pattern weaker than competitor toys
- Can be noisy.
How should I store my remote-controlled vibrator?
Good question - and this will depend on the toy you choose to invest in.
Nearly all will come with a detailed booklet explaining exactly how to care for your toy, including washing instructions. Similarly, most will come with a storage bag to keep your toy free from dust once cleaned.
As a general rule of thumb, keep your toys out of direct sunlight or in any extreme hot or cold temperatures.
