Dating and sex apps are still a huge thing. There are, of course the traditional drinks-and-a-movie kind, but far more of us are opting for the no-strings sex variety – or ‘Netflix and Chill’ hook-up. Here’s our definitive guide to the best apps for no-strings sex.
App 1: Blendr
Lowdown: Free for iPhone. It asks to link to your Facebook to access your location, photos, interests, plus ‘friends’ who are signed up too. Links you up to singles who are up for sex in your postcode. The more info you put on about yourself, the more you can see about others.
Verdict: Popular with young professionals (we came across a mix of 20-something chefs, builders, students, musicians and lawyers) who aren’t shy when it comes to no-strings sex.
App 2: Tingle
Lowdown: Its ‘radar’ system obscures where you are and you have to ‘wink’ at users before they can view your profile. A ‘chat’ service means you don’t have to give out your number.
Verdict: The men we came across were of a lower quality than blendr – one man’s profile picture was of a photo of his erect penis. Nice.
App 3: Tinder
Lowdown: Although Tinder promotes itself as a dating app, many people use it as a hook-up tool. Pictures of guys ping onto your screen in your area and you press a green heart if you fancy him or a red cross if you don’t. Superficial but quite fun. Unless you’re matched with someone (i.e. you both find each other mutually attractive) they cant see your profile. Links to your Facebook.
Verdict: Men are much more subtle here. You’re likely to be invited out for a drink rather than just round for sex.
App 4: Disckreet
Lowdown: A new app that keeps your naked photos, belfies and sex videos safe and secure. You can only access the files if you AND the other person(s) involved enter passwords. Idea is that only you and your partner can watch your previous bedroom antics together.
Verdict: Good for couples or f*** buddies who want to spice things up in a safe way. It’s a solution to revenge porn.
App 5: Sexy Vibes
Lowdown: An Android app that turns your phone into a vibrator. Can be controlled remotely by your partner, making even long distance hook-ups possible.
Verdict: Call us prudes, but we’re not keen on the thought of our phone (that goes so close to our face) being used as a sex toy.
App 6: Pure
Lowdown: Great if you want to find sex right now. Once you’re a member, you submit a request and state whether you’re looking for a man or a woman and where you’d prefer to meet. You’ll then be given some potential matches.
Verdict: Great for privacy. Your photo and tagline are only displayed for an hour at a time, which also means you’d better move fast.
App 7: Down
Lowdown: Down is an updated version of Bang With Friends. It finds your Facebook friends and friends of your Facebook friends. You can choose those you’d want to date and those you’d prefer just to do the dirty with.
Verdict: For the brave and brazen only as there is little anonymity.
App 8: 3nder (‘Thrinder’)
Lowdown: Always wanted a threesome but never known where to find that special (extra) someone? Well, there’s now a dating app to help you out. 3nder works much like Tinder; log on through Facebook (there’s an option to change your name), choose the composition of your group (2+1, or 1+1+1) and swipe through hundreds of potential matches in your area.
Verdict: This app has the ease of tinder, and much like that, most of the fun lies in the swiping. Once you’ve matched, how things proceed is up to you.
App 9: Netflix and Chill
Lowdown: The phrase already immortalized in meme form, now has its own app. It’s actually called TikiTalk, but opening up your screen, you’ll be confronted by the question that has become synonymous with ‘fancy a shag?’
Verdict: This is a genius marketing strategy, because everyone knows what Netflix and Chill *really* means. However, there are other date options available here too, suggesting this app is more meet-up than hook-up.
App 10: Mimitate
Lowdown: This app combines selfie-taking with Netflix. What more could we possibly want in 2016? Guys take a selfie and post it along with what they’re watching. If a girl likes both offerings, she fires back a selfie mimicking his, opening up a chat.
Verdict: This app eliminates unwanted advances, as you’ll never receive messages unless you show interest by way of your selfie. Plus, it’s a hilarious and ingenious idea. Who knew taking selfies while watching Netflix could lead to so much fun?
App 11: Whiplr
Lowdown: This is the app to satisfy all your kinks and fetishes. Getting beyond the small talk it gets down to the nitty-gritty of what you want, what you really, really want (sorry-not-sorry for spice girls ref there).
Verdict: You don’t need Facebook to log into this one, and can choose a nickname. It’s very specific gender and kink-wise, so the potential is there to find your perfect partner. However, the free service is limited and full use is a costly £14.99/£7.50 a month, monthly/annually. I guess the question is, how much you value your kink?
App 12: Bumble
Lowdown: Bumble calls itself a feminist app; for any matches that happen, the woman must start the chat within 24 hours, or it disappears.
Verdict: Pressure is high with that time limit – but it helps you quickly figure out whether that guy is worth the initial message.
App 13: Wingman
Lowdown: Going on holiday? Who cares what’s at the end of the plane journey, with this app the fun starts before you even land. Wingman lets you connect with others on your flight, giving you the chance for a sneaky in-flight get-together.
Verdict: We’re not sure how likely it is that there’s someone fanciable on your flight, who also has this app. But if you want to start your holiday romance before you’ve even left UK airspace, it’s probably the best place to start.
And now, the serious bit. Meeting up with total strangers always has risks, and more so if the prospect of having no-strings sex is on the cards.
How to be safe using dating apps:
- Avoid revealing your exact location, keep it vague or change your address.
- Do a background check on Twitter and type their name into google to pull up further info on them.
- Speak on the phone before meeting to get an idea of their personality.
- Look for inconsistencies, such as where they say they live or what they do. If you think they are lying. Make your excuses and cut contact.
- Go with your instinct and gut feeling.
- Always arrange to meet in a public place during the day.
- Have your own transportation.
- Let a friend know exactly where you are meeting and make them check in with you by text a couple of hours in to check all is ok.
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