We've spoken to the experts to get their top tips on making your dating profile work for you.
Creating a dating profile can be scary. After all, it’s not always easy to big yourself up without sounding conceited or (even worse) desperate. But did you know that one in three couples now find love online?
In this fast-paced, social media-dependent world, we rely on the Internet for everything – from keeping in touch with old school friends and career networking to ordering takeaways and finding a cat-sitter for that weekend away. So it only seems logical you would use the good old Internet for finding that special someone, too.
That said, the world of online dating can be daunting if you’ve never tried it before, so here are our top tips for making the most of your dating profile and spotting a great potential partner.
We also got the help of Charly Lester, Co-Founder of Lumen, the newest dating app on the scene, specifically designed for cool and adventurous over 50s. Her advice however, can help you no matter your age!
How to make the most of your online dating profile
1. Ask your friends for help
Get a friend to help you write your profile. Sometimes they know you better than you know yourself.
2. Avoid clichés
Even if you do like “walking on the beach” or “drinking wine in front of a roaring fire” leave it out – everyone says that. Think of something interesting that could be a conversation starter.
3. Look at other profiles
‘If you struggle for inspiration, why not look at other profiles to see what other people are saying?’ suggests Charly Lester, co-founder of new over 50s dating app Lumen. ‘Reading other peoples’ profiles might give you ideas for things to include in your own one.’
4. Choose action shots
Wouldn’t you know, profile photos that demonstrate you playing your guitar or downhill skiing – even if your face isn’t showing – get more messages.
5. Stay positive
Avoid negative tones and always be positive about yourself. Your profile is essentially your dating CV. You wouldn’t want a future employer to read anything negative, so why would you want a potential partner to read anything that isn’t positive?
6. Be honest
Lying doesn’t get you anywhere in the dating world. Honesty is the best policy!
7. Be specific
Talk in specifics to give a full flavour of who you are. If you love travelling, say where your favourite place is and why. Anything concrete like this brings you alive to anyone reading.
8. Update regularly
Keep your profile up to date. Make the effort to renew your profile on a regular basis with relevant information about yourself.
9. Check your grammar
Many people find poor grammar and spelling a turn off, and the best of us can make mistakes, so be careful on this point. Put your profile into Word and use your computer spell check for peace of mind.
10. Say cheese
In a recent poll, we found that 96 per cent of people would rather see a big, happy grin in a profile photo than a sexy pout.
11. Choose recent photos
If they are more than a year old, don’t use them. One of the most frequent complaints about online dating profiles is “they may have looked like that once but they certainly don’t look like that now”. Looking better in the flesh is better than the reverse.
12. Show them the real you
‘It’s been proven that the more photos you have on your profile, the more attention it will get,’ says Charly. ‘So make the most of that. Include at least a couple of clear head shots, where you’re not wearing sunglasses and you can clearly see your face. I always include at least one full length photo too, so there are no surprises when we meet up in real life.’
13. Have fun
Most people want to find someone who can make them laugh, so show people you have a sense of humour. If you can make someone laugh, it’s a great icebreaker and could get your conversation off to a great start.
14. Be the focus
Don’t choose a picture where you are not the main focal point.
15. Think out of the box
‘If a dating profile asks what you’re looking for, don’t give too much detail. Tell them about the type of relationship you’re looking for, and if you have set deal-breakers like “must like dogs”. But when it comes to things like height, weight, income, hair colour etc – there is no point listing these things,’ explains Charly. ‘Firstly, it can make you look too unapproachable, even to someone who ticks all the right boxes. And secondly, you’ll be surprised how often people fall for someone who doesn’t tick any of their original boxes!’
How to spot a good date
1. No negativity
If someone mentions anything cynical about relationships or comments about their “annoying” ex, move along. You don’t need a date with Mr Angry.
2. No arrogance
Avoid Mr ‘It’s All About Me’. It’s good to love yourself but there is a line that should not be crossed.
3. Check their photos
Are they in a bar or nightclub in every shot? If so, don’t contact them if you’re someone who likes to be in bed by 9pm.
4. No waffling
A long and very detailed profile could be an indication of what’s in store when you meet them in person. Nobody likes a waffler.
5. Kindness is key
Look for people with a good character. A profile that mentions family and friends, volunteering, and enjoying spending time with kids is a good sign.
Now you know how to make your dating profile stand out amongst the crowd, why not check out our round-up of the best online dating websites to sign up to? Looking for something a little less serious? These are the best apps for no strings sex – hello Tinder! Already a dating a pro? Then chances are you’ll related to these 12 soul destroying things you only know if you sign up for internet dating.
Whatever you choose, just follow the advice above and chances are you’ll find what you’re looking for.
Happy online dating…