What is a vaginal massage and do you need one?

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  • Well first of all, we're calling the vagina a ‘yoni’

    Vaginal massage is fast becoming a ‘thing’, and despite it sounding like something that comes complete with a happy ending, they’re actually used to help have a better sex life, and relieve any stress and tension that the vagina is storing.

    So what exactly is this then?

    In what we presume is a bid to make vaginal massage seem more mainstream, the term that the pros are using is ‘yoni massage’. In case you’re wondering, yoni is Sanskrit (classical Indian language) for the vulva and means ‘sacred portal.’ Indeed it is.

    Speaking to Women’s Health, somatic sexologist Isis Phoenix who specialises in yoni massage revealed the ins and outs of the treatment (pun unintended).

    ‘A yoni massage is a ceremony where a woman is invited to seize touch on her vulva,’ says Phoenix.

    ‘When we invite touch, there’s opportunity to cleanse a sense of energy.’

    She says while it helps release any of the emotions that have been ‘stuck’ down there, it also helps clients discover a new area in their vagina that feels good.

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    And how, we hear you cry, does Ms. Phoenix perform this yoni massage?

    She and the client will sit on a table in a butterfly position with the client’s legs draped over her. She then places her gloved hands on her client’s vulva and asks her to repeat breathing exercises while touching the woman’s labia. Then, if her client is up for it, Phoenix will put her fingers inside the vagina, and when she finds a tight spot, presses it and asks the woman to contract her fingers while holding her breath.

    While some women do orgasm during the ‘ritual’, others won’t, but that’s fine – the point is to know what makes you feel good, therefore making you better at communicating what you’re into during sex.

    ‘The biggest benefit is that they feel a sense of embodied wisdom of what gives them pleasure,’ she says.

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    The boundaries are always made clear before the ritual begins, so there are no surprises in store. ‘It can go as far as women want it to go. She may just want her yoni held,’ says Phoenix.

    A yoni massage can cost anything between £50 to £300 in the UK (we’re hoping the disparity in price is more indicative of location and time), and gynaecologists say it’s totally safe, so long as not too many herbs, steams and ointments are being used.

    And one thing Isis Phoenix is quite strict on: hand washing. Always make sure your yoni is being massaged or held by someone with clean hands. Which should probably just be a general rule for life.

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