Lots of food for thought here.
We thank our lucky stars every day that Rihanna descended from her godly palace in the skies to bless us lesser beings, even more so today now that she’s come for us in our time of need. The Wild Thoughts singer dropped some nuggets of wisdom for those of us trapped in a dating spiral and it’s valuable advice we’re definitely going to be taking to heart.
Beyond her wig-snatching British Vogue cover shoot for their upcoming September fashion issue, Rihanna also sat down for a chat with their editor-in-chief Edward Enninful to talk about everything from embracing your thicc-ness (‘you want to have a butt, then you have a gut’) to finding the perfect person.
She said, ‘I think a lot of people meet people and then they’re dating the idea of what the person could become, and that person never shows up and then they’re just mad disappointed.’
If you’re sitting around waiting for your shy hipster partner to magically transform into an extroverted prep, you might want to rethink a few things rather than trying to cultivate them like lettuce. While there’s nothing wrong with having standards, people aren’t projects and if somebody’s trying to mould you into a different person then you probably shouldn’t be dating each other.
Rihanna advised, ‘A person can always get better, they can always get worse, but you’ve got to be fine with what you met them as.’
To be honest, they’re words those of us in the dating pool definitely need to hear. With the string of dating apps and recent trends like ghosting, orbiting and stashing on the rise, it’s super easy to feel like you aren’t good enough for half the people in your radius – or sometimes be a little too judgmental of those you’re swiping across.
It’s no surprise that RiRi laid down the law, as she has always been completely and unapologetically herself whether she’s dominating the Met Gala’s best dressed list with her bold choices or calling out Snapchat for some truly heinous advertising.
If we all lived as authentically as Rihanna, the world would probably be a better place TBH.
(It would probably be a hell of a lot more stylish too.)