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    You should talk about your ex on a first date according to a relationship expert

    Erm. Really?

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    Published 4 November 2019 In Features

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    Erm. Really?

    First dates are awkward approximately 99% of the time. Whether they're a blind date set up by friends of friends, a hook-up from a sex app or someone who you randomly exchanged numbers with on the tube (does that actually happen in real life?) the fact of the matter is that when you go on a first date you're probably bit nervous, excited and hopeful that you'll have things to talk about.

    And while there are plenty of experts out there offering all sorts of advice - from this non-negotiable first date question to how to spot red flags - one pro suggests that you should talk about something that might make some people uncomfortable.

    The age old question has been answered. Is it a good idea to talk about your exes on a first date? Apparently, yes, it is.

    Relationship expert James Preece claims that warning bells shouldn't start ringing if your date tells you about their previous relationships.

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    Speaking to the Independent, he said: 'If you can joke about the situation, it's a clear sign you are ready to move on.'

    Madeleine Mason added: 'There is no harm in swapping stories and if the relationships have been significant; the experiences from there can be valuable in getting to know someone.'

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    However, one thing to watch out for is your date's reaction to your tales of lovers past.

    'If your date is jealous of you simply having a healthy relationship history, it’s a red flag which is better to see sooner rather than later,' Madeleine continues.

    Well, these experts know what they're talking about.

    Time to take the plunge and get chatting about your most recent ghoster?

    Maybe. We'll leave it up to you to decide.

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