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    Apparently, this is the one question you should ask on a first date

    Would you?

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    By Jadie Troy-Pryde
    Published 9 January 2019 In Features

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    Would you?

    Dating can be difficult at the best of times. We're aware of some hideous dating trends - scrooging, anyone? - and the fact that we're supposedly meant to have our shit together by 39.

    But first dates can be hard. How do you break the ice? What if they don't get your sense of humour? What if you've exhausted all your possible chat via messages beforehand?

    There's a lot to think about, and we often feel the pressure of having to be the best, coolest, funniest, most care-free version of ourselves to impress someone else. And while multiple love experts will tell you that you should looking for them to impress you, it's natural to be a little nervous about whether or not you'll get on and have enough to talk about.

    But what if we told you that there's one question you should ask on a first date if you want to make things a little less awkward?

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    According to one Cosmopolitan.com writer, it's simple. After going on a date with a 'sort of stranger', he asked: 'What’s one thing you want to ask me, but you’re too nervous to?'

    Apparently, this really got the conversation going and the experts agree that it's a great opener.

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    Paulette Sherman, PhD, psychologist and author of Facebook Dating: From 1st Date to Soulmate told them: 'Asking this question can allow your date to relax into the moment, get out of their head, and open up - especially if things are a teensy bit awkward.'

    Would you give this a go the next time you go on a date with a Tinder match?

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    Jadie Troy-Pryde is News Editor, covering celebrity and entertainment, royal, lifestyle and viral news. Before joining the team in 2018 as the Lifestyle and Social Media Editor, she worked at a number of women’s fashion and lifestyle titles including Grazia, Women’s Health and Stylist, and now heads the Marie Claire UK news desk.

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