‘Many Muslim women have no real avenue for learning about sex. Couples know “penis into vagina” but not much more’
Last month saw a new release, The Muslimah Sex Manual: A Halal Guide to Mind Blowing Sex.
From the title alone, it’s clear that this release is a groundbreaking one, with the book being the first ever sex guide written by a Muslim woman for Muslim women.
Going by the pseudonym Umm Mudhalat, the author published the how-to guide to teach Muslim women about sex, something she found they rarely know about when entering into marriage.
The aim, according to Mudhalat, is to inform and empower Muslim women in a friendly and informal way, enabling them to take the lead in physical relationships and enjoy a fulfilling sex life.
‘Many Muslim women have no real avenue for learning about sex. Couples know “penis into vagina” but not much more,’ the author explained. ‘There’s little guidance on how to spice up your sex life. Women have heard about BDSM, missionary and doggy style, but only in a vague sense. I wanted to write a book that would make this accessible to practising Muslim women.’
Explaining how she originally started the projected by giving her newly married friend an ‘impromptu sex skills workshop’ when she found out that she was struggling, Umm recalled how her friend had replied ‘Please, write this down and share it with other Muslim girls. No one teaches this.’
Although the book has had an overwhelmingly positive response, there have been some who have confused it for promoting promiscuity, something the author is quick to quash, explaining how it simply encourages Muslim women to be able to enjoy a happy and varied sex life with their partner.
‘I’ve received encouraging feedback, but also a significant number of demeaning and disgusting messages,’ explained the author via The Guardian. ‘One woman said it’s not needed, they learn everything from their mothers. I doubt any mother speaks in as explicit detail as I have.’
She continued: ‘I put an emphasis on having sex only with your spouse, but having the full range of sexual experiences with that spouse. Islamically, there’s an emphasis on enjoying physical relationships within the context of marriage, not just for procreation. It is the wife’s right that her husband satisfy her sexually.’