"Be honest, is work really working for you?" asks Elizabeth Uviebinené

Feeling burnt out, anxious, lonely or depressed? If you’re ticking any of these boxes, Elizabeth’s new book, The Reset, will empower you to negotiate a better way of working and living. She talks to us about her big ideas

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Feeling burnt out, anxious, lonely or depressed? If you’re ticking any of these boxes, Elizabeth’s new book, The Reset, will empower you to negotiate a better way of working and living. She talks to us about her big ideas

“We’re at a unique point in history,” Elizabeth Uviebinené is telling me, “A unique point, where we can be empowered to find our voice collectively and individually. This is a chance to reset the tensions around work. A time where we can write a new social contract with employers, to stop the pandemic of burnout, loneliness, depression and anxiety that’s in our current work package.”

Uviebinené’s passion about resetting how we live and work is infectious and eye-opening. It’s been a long day at my WFH desk when I call Uviebinené, the award-winning author, speaker and columnist at the Financial Times, and five minutes into the interview, I already feel re-energised, as she reveals a way to the promised land of work/life balance. And she should know. Uviebinené’s first solo book, The Reset, is the result of a year-long investigation into ideas for radically shifting how we work and live.

Although Uviebinené’s desire to investigate these ideas predates the pandemic, this spring’s publication of The Reset is perfect timing, as many of us are reassessing, in the aftermath of the pandemic, how we want to work and live. It’s also kind of ironic that it’s taken a global health pandemic to force the conversations about the way we work to be taken seriously by employers, businesses, multi-national mega-buck corporations.

But where’s our flexible-working utopia?

What felt like an overnight pivot to WFH back in March 2020, left bosses with no choice but to trust employees, that yes, we are super-productive even when we’re not visible in the office. However, Uviebinené’s manifesto makes it clear we are far from achieving a flexible working dream.

“We got rid of the office in the pandemic. We had to come up with new processes and make connections via Zoom,” she says. “But the last 15 months has been far from a flexible working utopia.”

Achieving flexi-working and female empowerment at work are issues Marie Claire has championed for years, because there’s no denying the link between the way we work and how it affects our mental and physical health. The last few years has seen a huge rise in burnout, anxiety and loneliness. The pandemic has only exacerbated this, with a she-cession impacting women’s careers disproportionally, trends and stats Uviebinené’ is all too aware of.

“The problem with this ‘new way of working’ is it's riddled with the same problems and mindsets,” she says. “We have a toxic work culture, where being ‘busy, busy, busy’, was celebrated and seen as a rite of passage. Now this treadmill of constantly being ‘on’ and we’re constantly burning ourselves out. Millions were experiencing burnout, anxiety and depression before the pandemic. Now with lines blurred between work and home life the situation has worsened.”

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Elizabeth has ideas to change how we work and live (Photography: Annie Harmeston)

She's on a mission to stop this worsening situation and offer people an alternative to being on the treadmill. Uviebinené has always been an optimistic visionary. The Marie Claire Future Shaper’s debut bestseller, Slay In Your Lane, co-authored with best friend Yomi Adegoke, brought her acclaim for offering a guide to a better, brighter - and visible - future for young black British women. Now, with The Reset, she’s offering a manifesto for everyone - a holistic examination at what our individual needs are and how this affects everything. Uviebinené’s mission is to make you stop and rethink your relationship with work (where you do it, how you do it, what times do you do it etc). She’s challenging us all to task employers into a new social contract that creates a world of work that’s more balanced, inclusive and better for everyone.

You’re ready for The Reset if you believe:

* Being busy isn’t an identity

* Perks aren’t office culture

* Profit isn’t all you want from business

* Loneliness shouldn’t happen in a community

* Inequality isn’t inevitable in a city

* We can all shape society

Offering provocative and uplifting optimistic views on the future of work, Uviebinené interviewed some of the most progressive politicians, business leaders and thinkers working in the UK today in The Reset – such as Mayor of London Sadiq Khan, flexible working campaigner Anna Whitehouse, Channel 4 CEO Alex Mahon and trend forecaster Karen Rosenkranz.

“It was fascinating speaking to all these amazing people, real experts at the forefront of this conversation,” she says. “I want to show that a one-size-fits-all approach doesn’t work. The Reset is about showing people had to gain more control, and hopefully forcing businesses to listen and take action.”

The Reset – how to achieve it

What changes would you like to ask for at work? Maybe you know already. The pandemic has given us plenty of time to work out how we’d love to restructure their lives. Resetting how you live and work, is all about working out what makes you happy and what makes you productive. Then having the confidence to believe in yourself and ask for it.

“We underestimate the power of our voices and we underestimate the power of coming together,” Uviebinené says. “We have this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to redefine what is acceptable and what’s not. Not everyone can demand change at work, but we can only create a cultural shift if we ask for choice and freedom where we can. If we assess our lives, work out the choices we need and ask for them. If it’s not possible, at least you asked, and might make a difference to someone else.”

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Uviebinené suggests you write down what your idea of a ‘good day’ looks like, by asking questions such as, what time would you ideally wake up? If you’re not a morning person, maybe you’d be more productive for your company rescheduling later working hours or vice versa if you’d rather finish work at 3pm every day. “By interrogating what you really desire and what you want to achieve in terms of how you live and work,” says Uviebinené, “then you’ll work out what your reset is.

The Reset personal development plan

These are just a few of the questions that may help you find your reset setting

* Where would you prefer to live?

* Are you prioritising your mental wellbeing?

* What’s been great about the last year and what hasn’t been so great?

* What have you learned about yourself?

* What’s really important to you?

* Are you holding your boss/company accountable for your growth?

* Are there gaps in your skillsets that your company can help you learn?

“If we rethink how we fit in, everything resets around us,” Uviebinené says. “The work culture we exist in, the businesses we work for, the communities we’re a part of, the cities we live in and the society we shape. We can’t just rethink one strand of society; we need to rethink everything together.”

* The Reset by Elizabeth Uviebinené (Hodder) is available now

Maria Coole

Maria Coole is a contributing editor on Marie Claire.

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