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    This is what you should say to end an argument with your partner

    And it's not sorry

    By Frederica Palmer
    Published 20 June 2017 In Features

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    And it's not sorry

    So you've found the one, sussed out the secret to a happy relationship and left the days of Tinder behind you - congrats.

    Unfortunately, chances are it's not all happily ever afters and the occasional disagreement will still crop up. We even recently spoke to relationship therapist Shirlee Kay to find out what the most common couple arguments are and how best to avoid them, and as well as that we learnt that there are three things you should never say to your partner if you want to keep the peace - whoops.

    That being said, if you do find yourself in the middle of a somewhat heated debate then there is one phrase you can say that will help defuse the tension and even end the disagreement - and no, it's not 'I'm sorry!'

    'The best thing you can say during an argument is 'I see your point' or 'maybe you're right about that part' or anything along those lines - anything that tells your partner you've heard him or her and are considering his or her perspective, ' licensed marriage and family therapist Jill Whitney told Insider.

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    Allowing your partner to realise you're seeing things from their point of view can remove some of the hostility and tension from the situation, and will allow for the discussion to continue in a calmer and less emotional manner.

    Huh, maybe one to try next time?

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