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    Seven people reveal why they’ve never had sex

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    Surprisingly relatable reasons thanks to Reddit

    What age did you lose your virginity? Yeah, it’s a pretty invasive question, and no, we’re not expecting you to reply, but when you’re a teenager, sex seems like the most important thing ever. Heads up kids, it’s really, really not.

    You may have had your first sexual experience as soon as you hit the legal age, maybe you waited ‘til uni, or maybe, you’re still waiting (in which case, you'll be pleased to know sex apparently improves with age)…

    But whatever stage you're at, you will most likely find this Reddit thread pretty enlightening.

    Here are seven reasons why these people are still virgins, as told to everyone’s favourite social news networking site. Prepare for some candid, relatable and at times heartbreaking responses…

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    ‘I’m a soon-to-be 23 year-old woman. I just wasn't ready when I was younger. And now that I am, I just haven't attracted anyone I'm interested in yet.’

    ‘No one explained to me how to go from knowing someone to having that person want to have sex with you. Even with all the dating and seduction guides out there, there's always an assumption of knowledge that I just don't have.’

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    ‘I’m a 28 year old female rapidly approaching 29. Honestly, I'm not interested in casual sex or a one-night stand. I've always felt like if I'm going to do it, I want to be in a long-term relationship with someone I care about and can trust. At the same time, I have spent a lot of time focusing on school and my career afterward. I travel often for my job, making it really hard to have a relationship. I have had a lot of opportunities to lose my v-card, but it never felt right. I also feel obligated to tell guys I have been seeing. Most guys around my age freak out when I tell them. Some cover it well at the time, but then I never hear from them again.’

    ‘I’m a 21-year-old man, and I'm afraid of physical contact and commitment. My fear of physical contact is greater than my desire to have sex, so trying and getting one night stands or a prostitute or anything like that won't happen in the near future, and a relationship would be too much for me to handle.’

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    ‘I'm 28, and I only really fell in love for the first time around 25. Before I really did want a relationship, but I never met anyone I would want to be in a relationship with. And since than I haven't met anyone I like that likes me too. I only just had my first kiss a few weeks ago....but it was nice. I was super drunk, and I think he was too, and I must admit I got the hell away from him after that because I was so embarrassed. But we are meeting up soon, sober this time. I don't know how I feel about him yet, but the whole situation showed me things like this do happen when you least expect it.’

    ‘I’m a 36-year-old male, and I've never felt sexy in any way. For some reason, I have a tendency to bring the worst out of people, and that, combined to a sensitive nature doesn't really work. You know, there's no point giving people more "ammunition" to mock you. If I were to have sex with someone it wouldn't be long until I'd hear people joke about my looks, dick size, performance, o-face or whatever behind my back.’

    ‘I’m 27. I am socially awkward and don't look good enough to make up for it. While I don't look too bad for a woman to be interested in me, I seal the deal with my personality.’

    All posts have been taken from Reddit

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    Holly Rains is the digital editor of Marie Claire UK. She has over 10 years journalism experience, working as an editor and writer, specialising in digital media, content strategy and dog breeds. Prior to Marie Claire, she has held senior staff positions at ELLE UK, Grazia and Company magazine.

    Holly is a frequent speaker, panelist and interviewer on a range of subjects including media trends, careers and entertainment. From working with Reuters to provide global red carpet coverage for events like the BAFTAs, to discussing fashion and beauty trends on network TV, she was also the host of the Marie Claire series ‘Holly’s First Dates’, where she regularly interviewed a mix of inspiring woman and A-list celebrities (including Jack Black, Dakota Fanning and Renée Zellweger)  - a series which garnered half a million views in its first two months. And was approved by The Rock.

    Her love of office-based meetings means that the days of discovering the melting point of Cadbury's Flakes are long gone, but when she isn't dreaming of scheduling in meetings, she likes to think about social media, and how best to avoid it whilst still retaining the title of 'digital' editor. She also likes learning about emerging technology, Influencers and how to become a Financially Responsible Adult.

    Contact Holly: holly.rains@futurenet.com

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