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    Is this the film that ended Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck's relationship?

    ‘I lost my sense of self’

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    By Jenny Proudfoot
    Published 24 August 2018 In News

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    ‘I lost my sense of self’

    Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez were one of the golden couples of the early noughties, so high profile in fact that their relationship warranted the first ever celebrity name - Bennifer.

    After meeting on the set of their film, Gigli, in 2002, their relationship rocketed and Ben and Jen went from a budding romance to a high profile engagement in just two years, publicly calling off their wedding in 2004. Now they are one of Hollywood's forgotten couples.

    While both Ben and Jen were hesitant to broach the painful topic of the split in its aftermath, now thirteen years later they have only kind words for each other and are open about their ‘self-destructive’ relationship.

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    In a recent interview with Vanity Fair, JLo went into detail about the historic relationship, explaining how it was a very difficult time for her.

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    ‘I lost my sense of self, questioned if I belonged in this business, thought maybe I did suck at everything, And my relationship [with Affleck] self-destructed in front of the entire world,’ she explained. ‘It was a two-year thing for me until I picked myself up again.’

    She has also previously opened up to W Magazine about the relationship, linking its downfall to her younger self’s insecurities.

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    ‘Men in their 20s are very confident and cocky, and women are super insecure. And then it flips - men get super insecure, and women get comfortable in their own skin, in a way that makes them more beautiful,’ the 48-year-old explained.

    ‘I never appreciated my body or my looks when I was in my 20s. Now I’m like, “Look at me! Look at you!” Not in a conceited or arrogant way - I just appreciate myself in a way that I didn’t when I was that age.’

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    Ben has his own opinions of why the relationship went wrong, explaining in a TV interview back in 2008 that it was down to the spotlight adding overwhelming pressures.

    ‘I think Jen and I made a mistake in that we fell in love, we were excited and maybe too accessible,’ the academy award winner explained. ’I don’t think either of us anticipated the degree to which it would take on a world of its own.’

    Well we’re certainly feeling nostalgic now - if you’ll excuse us we’re off to binge watch Gigli and Jersey Girl.

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    In 2021, Jenny was named as a winner on the PPA's '30 under 30' list, and was also listed as a rising star in journalism.

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