Could this be the worst bridal request of all time?

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  • We might have found the most unreasonable bride of all time

    We’ve all known a Bridezilla in our time, but a Reddit poster’s friend ‘Ella’ has set a new precedent for diva behaviour. An anonymous poster took to Reddit to canvas opinion about whether her friend was being unreasonable, writing:

    ‘So I’ve known my friend, who I’ll refer to as Ella, since I was a child as she’s the daughter of family friends but we’ve only become close in the past 2 or 3 years. She recently became engaged, and I readily accepted her offer to be part of her bridal party.

    Yesterday morning I received an email from Ella. It seemed pretty standard but then when she got into the look she wants for her bridesmaids she wrote “Bridehairthrowaway, you’ll need to dye your hair for the day, I’ll take you to my hairdresser and cover the cost :)”. This had never been mentioned to me. I’m a natural ginger, so it’s not like I have an outrageous hair colour, although Ella and her other bridesmaids are all brunettes.

    I texted Ella about it, she told me my hair would clash with the wedding colours and that brides get a veto over pretty much every aspect of her bridesmaids’ appearances. She also mentioned my hair is quite “attention-grabbing” and I’d take away from the cohesiveness of the group. I told her I wasn’t comfortable dying my hair. She said she’d get back to me but hoped I’d reconsider.

    Am I being reasonable here? I’ve never been involved in a wedding before so I’m not quite sure what’s expected of me. I’ve gotten some messages from the other bridesmaids who are telling me I should just do it.’

    Take a moment to put your jaw back in place. It’s hard to decide what the worst part is – the suggestion in the first place, or the other bridesmaids backing the bride up!

    Luckily there were a lot of supportive people on Reddit to reassure the long suffering bridesmaid that she shouldn’t be hitting the bottle any time soon. She eventually added to the thread writing, ‘Thank you for confirming I’m not crazy. I was considering offering to wear a wig, but I even think that’s kind of weird. She was just so casual about it she made it seem like a normal occurrence.’

    We thought that was the end of the saga, but no. There’s more. It gets even better. Our favourite bridesmaid posted on Reddit again, writing:

    ‘Long story short, I am not going to be involved in Ella’s wedding in any way.

    I didn’t hear anything from Ella regarding the hair dying so I spoke to my parents who in turn spoke to Ella’s parents (all in their 50s) who then must have spoken to Ella’s older brother (27M), who I will call Charles, who I’ve also grown close to over the past few years.

    ‘A little bit of background, Ella has been with her fiancé Pete (27ish?) since she was 15, he was (and I assume still is) a friend of Charles, which is how Ella and Pete met.

    ‘Charles called me and informed me that Pete has a redhead fetish. It’s something they always joked about in their teens (although that joking stopped when Pete began dating his younger sister).

    ‘Ella actually dyed her hair red (something I sort of remember) for several years in her teens but it basically became too damaged and costly to continue doing and she returned to her natural hair colour.

    ‘Charles would bet this is why she’s requesting I dye my hair. This all kind of made sense. I’ve met Pete a couple of times and Ella always seemed to be in a rush to leave the conversation and move on. He also stared a lot.

    ‘Why was I even asked to be a bridesmaid? Her parents “strongly encouraged” it, and are footing the entire bill. I’m generally fairly quiet and accommodating person so I guess she figured I’d just go with it.

    ‘I emailed Ella to tell her I’m no longer able to be a bridesmaid, I haven’t heard anything back although I know she’s seen the message. I will probably not be going to the wedding at all. The whole situation is just too weird and uncomfortable, I’m assuming there’s no coming back from this.’

    Sounds like this ex-bridesmaid might be in the market for a new bestie…

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