The authors of a new book, The Sexy Book of Sexy Sex, insist it will replace the Karma Sutra as the ‘go to’ sex manual
The authors of a new book, The Sexy Book of Sexy Sex, are hoping it’s going to replace the Karma Sutra as the ‘go to’ sex manual.
Kristen Schaal, the US actress and comedian best known for playing Mel the psycho stalker from Flight Of The Conchords, and her boyfriend and co-author, Rich Blomquist, a comedy writer for TV show The Daily Show, wrote the book to encourage more peopleto have sex.
Good sex can help make a relationship stronger; bad sex, too little sex or no sex can drive a wedge between a couple. But everyday problems such as busy work schedules, looking after children and stress mean life has a tendency of getting in the way.
Just over 14% of 35 to 44-year-olds said their sex life was ‘disappointing’ or ‘dull’ and one in five people aren’t having sex or have it less than once a year, according to a report from counselling service Relate.
Talking about sex is a good thing, says Schaal, who disagrees with the idea that people should automatically be great in bed together. ‘You need to talk about it in order to be good at it.’
Blomquist agrees ‘Communication is really important – by any means, not just talking,’ he says. ‘Whether it’s semaphore flags or telegrams, any way you can expose your partner to more communication of what you want, then we would highly recommend it.’
The couple also suggest sex can benefit from an injection of humour. ‘You should definitely lighten up in the sack,’ says Blomquist. ‘If you’re not laughing while having sex, you’re probably not having sex.’
The Sexy Book Of Sexy Sex (£16.99, Hodder & Stoughton) is out now.