3 (non-creepy) ways to reconnect with that old Facebook friend IRL

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  • How to get back in touch with the Facebook friend you haven’t spoken to in years with out the awks

    You’re connected on Facebook – but haven’t spoken in years. We asked three social butterflies how to get back in touch with old friends, without any awkward turtle moments along the way

    Step one: Track them down

    Kirsti Hadley, 42, co-founder of GRL PWR Gang

    ‘Send over a super-cute (or embarrassing) photo of the two of you to break the ice, and don’t apologise for losing touch. It’s their fault, too, and it’s always more funto focus on the present day. And remember, the more enthusiastic you are, the less nervous you’ll feel.’

    Step two: Make a date of it

    Shasta Nelson, 39, CEO of Girlfriendcircles.com

    ‘When you’re talking, ask open-ended questions that allow both of you to share what’s most important, and focus on the future – while it’s great to relive memories or try to update each other on everything that has happened since you last saw each other, if you want this friendship to have longevity, try to steer the conversation towards finding out who they are now and what you have in common.’

    Step three: Keep it going

    Olivia June Poole, 31, CEO of friendship app Hey! VINA

    ‘Friendships can be best maintained with either consistency or intensity. For consistency, schedule regular phone calls – and stick to them. For intensity, plan an annual trip to visit somewhere totally new. My friends and I have one that we call ‘amigamoon’ – like a honeymoon for girlfriends. Even if we haven’t spoken in months, we go away for a week and have a high-quality catch-up.’

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