And we ALL do it
Ah science, isn’t it a wonderful thing? From why you look like your partner to how your coffee order can mean you’re a psychopath, it pretty much has an explanation for everything that goes on in relationships.
Now a psychologist has revealed the biggest challenge couples face, and it’s something we all struggle with: being true to ourselves.
Because let’s be honest, how many of us have tried to change the way we are to please others? From not saying how we really feel to changing the way we look or fighting our messiness/tardiness/[insert cute flaw here], relationships are all about compromise, right? Well not really.
Dr. Liz Powell wrote on PsychCentral.com, ‘the most important piece of relationship advice I could give to someone who wants to be happy would be the advice to always be yourself and to always be authentic in all aspects of your life, and especially in your romantic relationships.’
She added that she learned this the hard way by being unhappy in a relationship because she was changing the way she was to fit into it.
‘You are the only person you have at the end of the day and if you’re trying to do something because it’s what makes other people happy rather than it’s because what feels authentic for you, you’re never going to be as happy as you could be,’ she concludes.
So at the end of the day, if you want your relationships, be it with your other half or friends, to work, you need to be yourself. Which does make sense when you think about it, non?