Michelle Obama just explained why women can’t have it all

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  • And it's incredibly moving.

    She might not live in the White House anymore, but that hasn’t stopped Former First Lady Michelle Obama inspiring us on the regular.

    In fact, she’s the go-to girl when it comes to pep talks.

    It’s hardly surprising therefore that when it was announced that the 54-year-old was touring to celebrate her new memoir, Becoming, with award-winning novelist Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, tickets were hard to come by. In fact, they sold out in minutes.

    But just because we didn’t manage to get tickets to Michelle’s 13-night tour doesn’t mean that we’re still not getting inspired by her comments on motherhood and family life.


    ‘Marriage still ain’t equal, y’all,’ Michelle explained during the Brooklyn leg of her Becoming tour. ‘It ain’t equal. I tell women that whole “you can have it all” — mmm, nope, not at the same time, that’s a lie.’

    She continued: ‘It’s not always enough to lean in because that shit doesn’t work all the time.’

    And that wasn’t the only time that Michelle talked candidly about marriage, speaking openly about the work that you have to put in to make a marriage work.

    ‘I love my husband and we have a great marriage and had a great marriage but a marriage is hard work,’ the former First Lady reportedly explained, via Elle. ‘And I say that because I see too many young people who frivolously enter into marriage, they think the love and the courtship part has something to do with what marriage is and it doesn’t.’

    Like we needed a reason to love Michelle Obama more.

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