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    This is what scares people most about sex with someone new

    Has it ever crossed your mind?

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    Published 1 March 2017 In Features

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    Has it ever crossed your mind?

    Words by Jadie Troy-Pryde

    You've finally met someone on Tinder that isn't a complete weirdo, and you've met up and verified that you aren't being catfished - in fact, he's hilarious and easy on the eyes. Your head is positively screaming, 'My place or yours?'

    But then the self doubt creeps in. Is my cellulite really up for the scrutiny? Did I remember to pluck that random hair on my stomach? And how can I make sure he doesn't see that weird spot on my underboob if I end up on top?

    If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. A Reddit thread that has recently surfaced received thousands of replies after posting the following question: What is the thing that scares you the most when about to have sex with someone for the first time?

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    And what it shows is that many of us feel pretty insecure when it comes to a bit of bedroom fun with a new sexual partner.

    The post has invited people to be completely honesty about what goes through their heads, and while you might think you're the only one stressing over stretch marks, you're definitely not.

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    Of the five thousands replies, female users cited embarrassment about their bellies, cellulite and stretch marks as reasons for pre-coital panic, whereas men were preoccupied with the size of their love organ, and both admitted that their insecurities have actually stopped them having sex with a new person all together.

    However, possibly the most interesting insight to come out of the thread is the amount of people who worry that their chemistry won't translate between the sheets.

    Many users expressed fear that the sex won't be as good as the build up, and that despite the sexual tension you won't actually be compatible when they get down to it.

    Other notable concerns ranged from 'being taped on camera' to 'that it won't mean anything', but one thing is for sure - we should be worrying far less about our bodies during sex someone new. After all, it's the perfect opportunity to practice some of these Kamasutra positions for your pleasure, right?

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