The menopause is something you can’t ignore. It’s unavoidable. It’s inevitable. And it can be daunting.
Luckily, there’s a wealth of information out there. From frank (and frankly necessary) discussions on what is perimenopause?, to game-changing new insights into female hormones, the M word is slowly losing its stigma. But that doesn’t mean that we’re fully there yet – and many would argue that we still have a long way to go in order to smash the taboo around this common (I mean, it affects half the population) yet not so commonly discussed, topic.
We caught up with three women who are trying to encourage greater conversation around the change, so that those going through it don’t feel so isolated and alone. Sara Matthews is a consultant gynaecologist, Dr Jan Toledano specialises in women’s hormones at the London Hormone Clinic, and Jackie McCusker is a registered Nutritional Therapist.
Drawing on expert insight and their own lived experience, here they share everything you need to know about the menopause – from hot flushes to HRT.
What is the menopause?
“It is the age at which a woman has her last period,” explains Sara Matthews. “Which for UK women is around 51. At which point there are no functioning eggs left in her ovaries.”
So technically, when a woman has been without a period for twelve months, it can be referred to as the menopause. But not before that point. “In the Western world one year after your last period is when we’re officially diagnosed as going through the menopause, but up until that point we’re in the peri-menopause and that’s the stage when our oestrogen and progesterone levels are beginning to drop,” adds Jackie McCusker, who experienced early menopause symptoms in her 30s. This is the point at which women start to experience symptoms, like hot flushes (more on that below). Matthews goes on, “the perimenopause can pre-date the menopause by up to 10 years when periods are still regular and hormone levels are normal. The ability to conceive was also lost approximately two years prior to the last period.”
What are some of the tell-tale menopause symptoms?
You start to experience symptoms in the perimenopausal stage, which as mentioned above can occur at different times for each individual and it’s all down to the changes in your hormones. “Progesterone will have already been depleted over the previous decade, so many women will have already gone through heavier periods and worse PMS symptoms,” explains Dr Jan Toledano. “Then the ovaries stop producing oestrogen – the hormone that controls many functions of a woman’s body – and that’s when women experience things like hot flushes, low mood, vaginal dryness, poor memory and headaches. On top of that, testosterone also declines, which causes poor energy, lower libido and less muscle strength and lower confidence.”
There are a whole host of symptoms that occur when you’re at this point, some more common than others. According to Matthews, around 88% of women in the perimenopausal stage will experience hot flushes.
- skin dryness
- vaginal dryness
- hot flushes
- low moods
- night sweats
- irregular periods
- heart palpitations
- panic attacks
- decreased libido
- joint paints
- brain fog
- skin rashes
- allergic reactions
- weight gain
- hair loss
- brittle nails
- needing to go to the loo more often
- increased urine leakage
- breast tenderness
- difficulty coping at work
- relationship difficulties
- sleep deprivation
“We have completely individual biochemistries,” explains McCusker. “So, one person’s menopause isn’t going to be the same as another person’s menopause. It’s genetics, diet, the amount of stress we’ve had in our lives, cultural differences, etc.” Dr Toledano agrees, saying, “All women experience the change in hormones differently. Some are debilitated and feel unable to function properly, while others barely notice this change at all.”
“There is an idea that women must carry on through menopause with little complaining,” says Dr Taledano. “These changes however can be devastating and often happen at a time of life when there are other changes too such as children growing up and leaving home. It’s important to know that all the symptoms are preventable and physical changes reversible.”
Should you see a doctor to confirm you are going through the menopause?
Matthews recommends that you do. “It is always useful to consult your GP about any symptoms that could relate to the menopause, no matter what age you are. A blood test to check your hormones will indicate whether you are 1-2 years from your last period, but you can still have symptoms long before that. If your hormones levels are fine and your periods regular, and your GP has ruled out other causes for your symptoms, then it would be useful at that stage to see a menopause specialist,” she says.
How long does the menopause last?
This is not a straight-forward question to answer, because the menopause is defined by the day 12 months after your last period. However, the length of time a woman experiences the perimenopause, or symptoms of the menopause will vary considerably. Unfortunately, there is nothing set in stone. “There is no test that can indicate how long,” says Matthews. “Women can start symptoms up to 10 years before the periods stop, but recent research suggests that symptoms after the last period last an average time of 7.4 years.”
What’s the best menopause treatment?
“All perimenopausal symptoms will improve with hormone replacement therapy (HRT),” says Matthews. “About 10 years ago, HRT received bad press after a study suggested it significantly increased the risk of blood clots and breast cancer. The findings have now been refuted and safer HRT regimes have been developed.” Dr Toledo agrees with HRT as a treatment, adding, “Topping up the hormones that are low is the best option. The fear instilled by those studies and subsequent press frenzy still causes confusion for women. There are no increased risk of disease, and in fact there’s a lower risk of many diseases with certain HRT.”
Ideally you would get a top-up of both oestrogen and progesterone, as they balance each other out. By replacing oestrogen you are protected against heart disease, strokes, high cholesterol, diabetes and osteoporosis. It also helps to relieve hot flushes. There’s also the option of vaginal oestrogen, which prevents and treats vaginal dryness and urinary symptoms. Matthews recommends it to all of her patients from the menopause onwards, apart from breast cancer patients. Replacing progesterone can stop skin being and feeling as dry and helps with cognition and sleep.
Changes to your lifestyle can also help you manage your symptoms. “A heathy diet and exercise, good sleep and doing things that make you happy all have a positive impact,” says Matthews. “Moderating alcohol intake, stopping smoking, taking control of your health will bring massive benefits. Cognitive behaviour therapy can help along with meditation.” Dr Toledano couldn’t agree more: “Make healthy lifestyle choices, like a better diet, more exercise (especially weight bearing exercise to keep your bones healthy), stop smoking, lose excess weight and cut down on alcohol. Meditation or cognitive behaviour therapy can also be really useful.”
Is there a recommended menopause diet?
As a nutritional therapist, McCusker works closely with women to help them rethink their diets to help with the symptoms. “The female Asian population tend to have a better experience of menopause than us in the western world, and one of the main things is their diet. They have had a very nutritiously dense diet of whole foods, legumes, and traditional fermented soy, which contain phyto-oestrogens. These are natural plant oestrogens and can emit a mildly oestrogenic effect, when when our oestrogen levels are dropping severely during the perimenopause.
The things to avoid are environmental oestrogens, a.k.a zeno-oestrogens or endocrine disrupting chemicals. These disrupt your internal hormone system. These come from things like plastic bottles, plastic wrapping and parabens in skincare. McCusker recommends buying organic where possible, “Any live stock or animals products, like eggs, because they’re being pumped full of zeno-oestrogen hormones. It’s about making small steps to lower your toxic load. For example, you could change your washing liquids to more natural ones.”
The bottom line: what else should I know about menopause?
“Do not blame yourself for how you feel,” says Dr Toledano. “Get help from your doctor to give you the hormones you need to top up what you are not making and do not use oestrogen if you still have periods (unless this is supervised by a gynaecologist), only use progesterone at this stage.
“Be aware of the symptoms that can arise, seek medical help from your GP and if necessary, a menopause specialist,” Matthews adds. “Don’t suffer in silence! Take a little time out to think about what is happening and how you can adapt your lifestyle to help. Little practical things like layering clothes and having a fan and some water in your handbag, cotton sheets and a cool bedroom can make all the difference.”
“Find a bit of joy everyday,” recommends McCusker. “Although life can be really crap and terrible, find time to laugh, find something that makes your heart sing, that lifts you a little bit. Even in the darkest moments.”
Thankfully, we live in a world where there are brands that aim to help women during this tough time. Scroll down, for the products that might make your menopausal journey a little bit easier…
Vichy is a brand that has taken it upon themselves to listen to the needs of women going through the menopause. They have two ranges that cater to their very needs. This rich duo helps to nourish, brighten and balance a complexion that is going through a tough time.
This cream helps tighten and lift skin that has lost a bit of its elasticity. When used in the morning and night routines you should notice that the skin around your neck has significantly tighten, giving your jawline a smoother appearance.
When Meg Mathews started to experience symptoms of the menopause herself, she was dismayed by the lack of support and understanding there was on the subject. So because of that, she launched her website, a source of information and advice for women going through the same thing. Earlier this year, she created her first product line of intimate products to help combat vaginal dryness.
Thriva want to change the way people look at their health. Rather than waiting for something to go wrong, they offer at-home tests to allow you to take control over your health. They recently released the Female Hormones Test, which is an at-home blood test which checks whether your hormones are in menopausal range. It tests hormones including FSH and Luteinising hormone (high levels of which can be menopausal symptoms) and Oestradiol (which is indicative at low levels). So if you think you might be starting to experience some of the symptoms we mentioned above, don't wait for it to get on top of you. Take the test and take back a bit of control.
This beautiful pink cream (and we mean the actual cream is pink, not just the pot) is designed with those whose skin is adapting to hormonal changes. It brightens, leaving the skin with a luminous finish. We dare you not to fall in love with this.
There are two very clever things about this mist. Its name and its ability to calm, refresh and cool a hot, flushed face. If you're going through the menopause, buy one for every handbag, for your car, for your desk, etc.
This brand was created solely for those going through all stages of the menopause. It has innovative formulations that work to encourage women to know that beauty gets better with age. This hydrating cleanser takes care not to strip the skin of its natural moisture. It also supports collagen production, enhances brightness and improve firmness.
This dreamy coconut concoction is filled with good fats to provide essential fuel as you go about your day-to-day. Good for the planet, your waist line and your brain cells, this daily supplement will boost energy levels and leave you feeling less tired and more alert. Blend it into your morning coffee or smoothie, or drizzle it on a delicious salad for a healthy way to get your nutrients.
There are countless supplements out there purporting to ease the symptoms of menopause, so it can be difficult to distinguish between those that are worth their salt and those that aren't. These natural Bee Rested ones certainly don't promise to be a miracle cure for sleepless nights, but their blend of lavender, hops, chamomile, magnesium and griffonia seed extract will certainly make bedding down a little easier.