The #metoo movement has made talking about rape far less taboo, so why isn’t sexual violence being reduced? In honour of Sexual Abuse and Sexual Violence Awareness Week 2020, Lizzy Dening, founder of Survivor Stories, reports on the reasons why we're still shockingly at risk
It’s 2020 and we’re slowly getting better at talking about rape, thanks in part to initiatives like #metoo and the Million Women Rise march. But for every forward step, the statistics around sexual violence remain bleak – and things are actually getting worse.
It’s estimated that one in five women and 4% of men have experienced some type of sexual assault since the age of 16, with roughly 3.1% of women experiencing a sexual assault each year. Meanwhile, rape cases referred by police to the Crown Prosecution Service have fallen by 32%, and convictions have dropped by 21%, in the year leading up to September 2019. So what exactly is going on?
A massive part of the problem are the assumptions most people make about sexual violence – what it looks like and who it affects. ‘Sexual violence is a persistent, and possibly growing, scourge on our society,’ says Vivienne Hayes MBE, CEO of the Women’s Resource Centre. ‘We know that it is overwhelmingly experienced by women and girls, though not exclusively. We also know it is not only used as a ‘weapon of war’ but is more often than not found within families and friendships.’
Here are some of the main ways in which ‘rape culture’ is holding survivors back from justice – and leaving perpetrators out on the streets.
Historically, the voices of women and girls have always been ignored – and in many ways we’re still living in the past. ‘It is imperative that we start to remove the silence so often surrounding sexual violence; believe girls when they disclose it; and take a much wider view on how to tackle it,’ says Hayes. ‘Many people, understandably, don’t want to raise this issue, as it reveals a side of humans that is quite frankly almost unbelievable – men raping babies and toddlers; who wants to even acknowledge that happens?’ While we’re not necessarily suggesting graphic stories at the dinner table, a little bit of shared awareness and compassion go a long way to making survivors feel safe enough to share their stories.
‘Rape culture and victim blaming are huge, and both really silence victims and protect perpetrators,’ agrees survivor Madeleine Black, author of Unbroken. ‘So in my case [having been gang raped as a teenager] it was: ‘you were drinking, what did you expect?’ This trickles down, and we’d be naïve to think juries don’t come with these same preconceived ideas. We’re living with these attitudes all the time.’
The role of rape culture
A lot gets blamed on ‘rape culture’ – but what exactly does that mean? In short, it’s an attitude that, arguably, permeates almost everything we experience. From locker-room ‘banter’ to unequal pay, it’s the idea that women and girls are somehow lesser compared to the desires of men. Unsurprisingly, many experts believe this is a major factor in our widespread sexual violence problem.
‘Although we’ve had, for over 15 years, a clear definition of ‘consent’ in law, and in fact have some of the most progressive sexual violence laws in Europe, we haven’t seen a culture shift alongside that’s essential to embed change,’ says Katie Russell, Media and Comms Co-ordinator for Rape Crisis England and Wales. ‘There’s a widespread lack of understanding about healthy sexual relationships.’
One possible way to start to change this could be, according to Katie, a high profile education campaign, aimed at changing the narrative around victim blaming: ‘A public, government-funded awareness campaign around victim blaming myths and attitudes would be amazing. We’ve already seen what an effect campaigns can have from issues such as wearing a seatbelt, smoking in pubs and drink driving.’
And what about changing attitudes in the courtroom? ‘It is critical that those of us who work to bring offenders to justice continue to challenge the myths and stereotypes which surround sexual offences,’ says Siobhan Blake, the Chief Crown Prosecutor for CPS Mersey Cheshire, and the lead for rape cases across the Crown Prosecution Service. ‘Recent high profile cases demonstrate that offenders operate in many guises and all environments, the traits they have in common is their total disrespect they have for their victims and their cynical exploitation of vulnerability be that physical, emotional or environmental.’
Could ‘consent education’ help?
Another solution posed by just about everyone involved in sexual violence charities and organisations is early years education.
‘Tackling the rape culture children grow up in is imperative,’ says Hayes. ‘I would dearly love to see nurseries and schools prioritising human rights, human love and care, respect of difference and addressing the inequality in our society head on.’ But what exactly does that look like when it comes to very small children? ‘A simple start would be for the current ‘disease of blue and pink’ to be ended. For children allowed to access toys and books that challenge the damaging gender stereotyping which actually promote a culture where boys and girls are unequal.’
Black agrees that early education is crucial: ‘It starts at nursery level – we should be teaching children about consent and what healthy relationships look like. Not forcing them to sit on someone’s knee or kiss someone if they don’t want to, and educating them to listen to their gut.’
Change is imperative
Whatever your gender or background, living in a rape culture is harmful, and it’s in all of our best interests to start calling out victim blaming, pressuring the government to address issues of inequality, and believing rape survivors.
‘Sexual violence is difficult for many people to talk about, but other topics have been similarly laden with stigma,’ says Russell. ‘For example, HIV, and now people’s attitudes towards testing and treatment have shifted. Only feminist activists are really talking about sexual violence, and sadly we are sometimes shouted down or characterised as extremists.
‘It’s such a crashing and desperate situation and it requires some radical solutions. If any other serious crime had such a massive effect on people’s lives, careers, relationships and health, and was consistently going unpunished, it would be considered a national emergency. The fact that it’s a crime that disproportionately affects women and girls, and is perpetrated by men – we can’t ignore the sexism in the response.’