‘I don’t know if it’s just too hard to be married to a woman that wants to be a movie star.’
Ready for a blast from the past? If you can cast your mind way back, you may remember that that Ethan Hawke and Uma Thurman were married back in the late 90s and were one of Hollywood’s biggest it couples – that is, until their official divorce in 2005. A marriage can crumble for many sad reasons, however Ethan opened up about why he thinks his own didn’t work out.
In an interview with 20/20 in 2004, he revealed that both his and Uma’s rampant film schedules were to blame. He said, ‘You know you’d come up with these rules: ‘One person works, the other person doesn’t. Well, then somebody’s always out of town.’’
‘Then I’m living in a hotel taking care of my kids while you’re off on a film set six hours a day doing what you love,’ he continued. ‘Do that for nine months and see what a good mood you’re in.’
According to The Sun, the pair separated in 2003 before making their divorce official in 2005.Both Uma Thurman and Ethan Hawke were hot tickets back in the early 00s, with Uma returning to her collaborator Quentin Tarantino with Kill Bill Vol. 1 and its anticipated sequel Kill Bill Vol. 2 between 2003-2004. (Uma has since alleged that Quentin Tarantino sexually harassed her when they worked together in 1994 on Pulp Fiction.) During the same period, Ethan Hawke took more of a step back presumably to look after their two children with his only acting credit in 2003 being a quick stint in an episode of Alias.
We were on board with Ethan’s comments until he added, ‘I don’t know if it’s just too hard to be married to a woman that wants to be a movie star.’
While he did eventually say that he knows ‘she has the right to want that’, something about the comment smacks of sexism. Maybe he was just coming from a place of bitterness, as it seems like his career stalled a little while hers blew up. The year after they separated, he returned to one of the franchises that made him massively popular with Before Sunset – a sequel to the ambling romance Before Sunrise.
Ethan and Uma met on the set of Gattaca back in 1996 and later had two children together: Maya and Levon. After their separation in 2003 and eventual divorce in 2005, Ethan wound up marrying Ryan Shawhughes, a former babysitter to their children, in 2008. Uma on the other hand has been dating hotelier Andrew Balazs since 2015.
While Uma Thurman has been relatively quiet about the divorce, she did open up to Oprah about her ‘excruciating’ divorce and how her self-esteem had become ‘pretty mangled’ per PEOPLE.
It was rumoured that Ethan Hawke had cheated on her towards the end of her marriage in Montreal and Uma said, ‘There was some stuff like that at the end. We were having a difficult time, and you know how the axe comes down and how people behave and how people express their unhappiness. Our marriage failed. I should take full responsibility for the failure of my own marriage.’
Here’s hoping that they’re both much happier now, since it sounds like a harrowing experience for both of them.