Plus, when you'll first kiss them, hold their hand and sleep with them...
How long did it take you to kiss your partner on the first date? How about how long it took to sleep with him – or to say ‘I love you’? And when did you finally move in together? Our answers to these important questions about our relationship milestones are all different, but Match.com have done a study to find out what the national average is.
The dating website interviewed over 2,000 people about their relationship, asking everything from when they became Facebook-official to when they first met their partner.
According to the research, the average woman finds her life partner at the age of 25, while for men, they’re more likely to find their soulmate at 28, with half of people finding ‘the one’ in their twenties.
They also found that most people waited five months to say ‘I love you’ for the first time – and also to update their relationship status on Facebook – and six months till they were given their own drawer at their partner’s home.
Interestingly enough, it takes longer to hold hands with a new partner than it does to kiss them, the research says – with 34% of respondents saying they’d wait a week or two before holding hands, and 31% saying they’d kiss their date immediately if things were going well.
And when it comes to having sex for the first time, the answers were divided, with 27% saying they’d wait between one or two weeks to sleep with their partner for the first time, and 23% waiting a month.
But with all the romantic perks like holding hands and getting your own drawer also comes the less pleasant side of getting more comfortable with each other, with the first argument normally taking place around the six-month mark as well. This is also when people tend to introduce partners to their parents for the first time (which, we’re guessing, could be a source of tension for some people).
When it comes to the nerve-wracking conversation about the long-term future, the study revealed that 33% of people will have their first conversation about that within one year, with engagements typically happening after two years, weddings taking place after three, and kids after four.
‘While each relationship moves at its own pace, daters are often reassured by comparing their experiences with others,’ Dating expert Kate Taylor said.
‘We all ask our friends, “When did you know your partner was The One?” or, “How long did you wait before you kissed?” If your relationship isn’t falling within these time frames, use them to adjust your expectations.’
The important thing to remember is that everyone is different – so if you waited a week to tell your partner you loved him, or if you still haven’t said it after a year, that’s fine. In the words of a great film, whatever works.
Does this relationship timeline match up to yours? Let us know @marieclaireuk