Vernon Kay admits sending texts to five other women

Can Vernon's behaviour be a prelude to the trysts like that of Tiger Woods?
Comment by Velma on February 10 12:55

he will do it again, he's sorry yes-but only because he got caught, and if he hadnt he would have carried on !!!
Comment by sue on February 10 12:55

I hope she makes his life a misery!! I imagine there is still more to come out of the woodwork with this story. If he thought he was getting away with this with 5 women how much more did he actually do????
Comment by bev on February 10 12:59

What is it with these phones. I found texts on my husbands phone too, they just cant help themselves.
Comment by tabbie on February 10 12:59

He is being singled out for doing this, but the honest truth is, so many men who are in supposedly loving relationships, do the same thing. In mens eyes they are doing nothing wrong. Im sure there are many many more seemingly 'clean cut' men who have done or are doing the same thing. Its in a man's nature. Full fidelity is almost unrealistic to them. They have just learnt to be deceiving about it, and unfortunately it is us women that are hard done by.
Comment by fi on February 10 13:00

Tiger, Terry, Vernon - are all men total and utter pigs? My friend was married to a chap in the public eye. We all thought he was totally decent and devoted to her - oh , and then we discovered he'd ha d multiple affairs while she wa pregnant(even asked me out once.I think I'm going to have my husband chemically castrated every time he is out of my sight!
Comment by Polly S on February 10 13:12

I must say I'm surprised... always had them both down as being really tight and family focused! Maybe it was banter to begin with but went a bit far - everyone has a flirt inside them.
Really hope they work it out, although I think he has A LOT of grovelling to do!
Comment by Sarah on February 10 13:12

How can he say in one breath that it was harmless banter & then in the next that a weight has been lifted?!
Typical love rat...never had Vernon down as a liar. Poor Tess.
Comment by sophia on February 10 13:19

Its not just how stupid he has been, its the feeling of betrayal and no longer being "special" that Tess must now feel - this has happened to me too, on facebook chat where i caught by boyfriend making lewd suggestions to a "friend" - a single woman who should have known better but didnt care she was hurting someone! Its taken a lot of heart searching for me to trust him again, because he too saw it initially as harmless, but my love isnt a toy or a game and i take my relationship seriously, so i only expect the same in return. Vernon and others need to learn that! I hope he does, and learns the only person he needs to impress, is her.
Comment by ivvey on February 10 13:27

shame on you Vernon ..Shame on you.I do not believe that you only stuck to emails at all.
It is rude to do this to a wonderful woman like Tess..she should kick your ass out the house.
Comment by claudia clarke on February 10 13:27

You people make me sick!!

Not getting any press coverage eh Vernon
"The Ediot"
I would do something far worse than "kick him to the Kerb" (Comment from Penny)

We are all getting so tired of hearing about some of you so called celeb's infidelities, & the pathetic women you choose to mess around with!!!
As I mentioned to friends a couple of nights ago " Another Chav gal to add to the ever depleting chav reality shows. I can see the headlines already- J.Terry's "undies bit" & Vernon's Page 3 bit of trash...

I wonder which "FOOL" wi'll be reading about next week ?!!

But,Once the trust is gone it's DONE! Enough said.
Comment by Sandy from London on February 10 13:30

My God...It's coming to something when a bit of harmless banter between friends is seen as a betrayal! I could understand the reaction had Vernon had multiple affairs with the women, but all he did was act stupidly, like a lot of people do, by flirting with someone other than his wife! I have male friends who happen to be married and we flirt outrageously, but I know that it means nothing! Give the poor bloke a break and let him and Tess get on with their lives.
Comment by JayneP on February 10 13:39

If as he says it was harmless then why was it behind his wife's back. He knew it was wrong and is probably more sorry that he got caught. This kind of behaviour can lead to something else. His actions have basically taken away the trust she had for him and even though she may forgive him it will take a long time before she can trust him and for that matter she may never be able to trust him 100% again and that may cause them to break up. Why dont people think about their actions and see what harm it can do. Once one partner does something like this no matter how silly it may seem to some people the damage is done and it is so difficult to rebuild no matter how hard you try and being in the public eye I think it becomes 10 times more difficult.
Comment by Wendy on February 10 13:39

I understand what Jayne is saying but the difference is Vernon Kay is in the public eye and is supposed to be a role model. I know he is human but to take on a job so much in the public eye (which he does so well) you have to sacrifice areas of life which can crawl out of the woodwork and bite you on the @rse!
As a fan of Vernon Kay all I have to say is...dude, live and learn.
Comment by Emma on February 10 13:46

I may be missing something here, but I don't really see the harm. My husband and I are both big flirts, but I would never even consider going beyond flirting and I trust my husband to do the same. If you don't have that level of trust in a marriage then what's the point?
Comment by Andrea on February 10 13:49

I'm speaking from a bloke's point of view, having done this myself I know how difficult it is to break the cycle, so I wish him and his family the best as it does put relationships under severe stress. I don't use the term 'sex addiction' lightly but you can't apply normal and logical arguments in this sort of case, the rush you get from it is no different to smokers with nicotine and drinkers with alcohol. It is just more taboo and more difficult to understand as it isn't something tangible.

Good luck Vern, you will need a lot of support.
Comment by Vinny on February 10 13:51

I can sympathise with Tess, my husband did exactly the same thing.

Harmless texts about work that got raunchier leading to texts of a sexual nature arranging to meet which he didn't think were an issue as he had no intention of meeting with her or taking things any further but when I discovered it absolutely destroyed me, our relationship and any trust I had in him.

It wasn't so much the texts but the secrecy, the lack of respect for me, our relationship and the fact that when we got together he promised never to hurt me or let me down like the men who had been in my life previously, the ones he had slagged off! After trying to get with me for 12 months and really persuing me until I gave him a chance, I believed he was a better man than that or why else did he try so hard to pursued me.

The woman involved who was also in a relationship thought it was funny which added insult to injury and to this date I have to have contact with her at work functions, she is in my face, always trying to get a rise out of me at social functions and even though it is hard I keep my dignity when really I want to rip her head off and tell the really nice guy she is involved with who has since asked her to marry him what she was doing behind his back last summer!!!

I feel for Tess as her misery is being played out through the media.

Comment by SP on February 10 13:51

I don't think it matters what we think, they should be left in peace to sort it out. Thousands of couples work through things worse than this and Vern's predicament is just made worse by gossip, the press and numerous goldiggers coming out the woodwork! OK so he shouldn't have done it but he's not even accused of kissing another woman yet everyones scratching around for more dirt to hang, draw and quarter him for!
Comment by Sals on February 10 13:54

Why do men do things like this? Are they bored? Us ladies could do with a bit more excitment as well, but most don't resort to the things men do. So, he feels like a weight has been lifted, got rid of his guilt more like. How does he think she feels? I would feel humiliated and never trust him again. Stupid boy!
Comment by Ann on February 10 14:13

Yet another celebrity/married man (take your pick over which title!) makes an ass out of himself over another woman/women & feels the need to expunge his guilt & make a grovelling & embarrassing public apology. Hardly new,eh?!
Comment by Tina on February 10 14:33

Tess forgive him and give him a new start. You two are so lovely together.
Vernon even though I do not know you I feel let down as you seem like such a wonderful young man. The image I have of my son. Fix up and do not disappoint such a wonderful woman again. You must now eat humble pie fo ever.
Cecilia
Comment by CECILIA THOMAS on February 10 14:34

Leopard and spots spring to mind. I speak from experience.
Comment by juliet richards on February 10 14:49

it was wrong of vernon tess is lovely i hope they can work it out and dont do it again vernon it was stupid
Comment by Pauline on February 10 15:24

It depends on exactly what he did say.
Comment by bea on February 10 15:25

This is still adultery, if its something you are hiding from your wife/husband/partner then you already know its wrong.If he hadnt been caught out now he would have been caught sooner or later with his pants down. What an idiot! Lynn
Comment by lynn on February 10 16:06

our survey says ... ditch him Tess, once a cheat...
Comment by sarah on February 10 16:25

This comment is for fi - believe me women are worse for flirting than men or Vern for that matter. My so-called friend was all over my husband at bbq's and outings and holidays with other friends, and I ignored it at my peril.The short of it is floozy took him off me and they are together now buying a house - she shed her husband within a week of my husband walking out - yes - they haven't got any money - but she got him, colostomy and all!!! That was a shock for her, she had no inkling but by then she was stuck nowhere else to go - no job - no money - so beware, all you women out there thinking you will get a bargain,my ex didn't let on what ailed him!!!!
Comment by Cate on February 10 16:32

It's not that bad really. He thought he could get away with it, but at the end of the day he hasn't comitted adultery. Tess is bound to feel hurt but it's something silly that he now regrets but it's not worth splitting up over so long as they still love each other which I am sure they do.
Comment by nikki on February 10 16:36

I feel really sorry that even a bloke such as Vernon Kay feels that he has to flirt and banter with other women, when he has one of the most attractive, funny and talented ladies in the country. Isn't she enough for him? Why would he risk throwing all that away for some "harmless banter"? I somehow think he would not consider it "harmless" if the boot was on the other foot! Tess should put him through the mill for this, but somehow I don't think she will because she's a woman and she'll be forgiving....until the next time!
Comment by Joanne on February 10 17:04

When it happened to me, I thought I was the only one and was absolutely devastated, but ready the comments, it seems there are many of us who this happens to. As my husband and I run a business together, the first time I found out was because a certain mobile number was recurring too often on our phone bills. When I looked into it in more depth, there were hundreds of texts and phone calls which had taken place over the previous 6 months, all at times I was away from the offie or he was. I was devastated by the deceit and deviousness of the situation to plan it all for when I wasn't around. He swore she was only a friend and realised he this was a line he shouldn't cross. This all happened prior to our 2nd anniversary. A year later, I found a hidden extra mobile phone he'd cleverly got hold of as it then wouldn't appear on the business bills. The texts I read were of a very sexual nature and implied an affair. After much persuading, he admitted, he had gone round once for coffee and she wanted sex but he'd refused, and like Vernon said, was so glad I'd found out as it was a weight off his shoulders, but he hadn't been able to get rid of her through fear she's tell me they had stayed in touched when I thought it was all over. We went to councelling and are still together, I have forgiven. But you never forget, and 19 months later I still don't trust him and always wonder if what he says is true and am always checking up on his phone, emails, etc!!! Is this anyway for a woman to have to live. I was so happy before, but now permanently live on the edge. So I really can't say what poor Tess should do. I feel like I am just waiting for something to happen again and I shall finish the relationship this time. It's as if I'm waiting for an excuse to do what I really know I should have done when it happened. Good Luck Tess. You have a really hard decision to make!!
Comment by Sharon on February 10 17:07

What a fuss over nothing !! A bit of harmless flirting if you ask me. I've been married for 13 years with 2 children and flirting is quite harmless in mine and my husbands minds. It only becomes more serious if acted upon. Do we really need to make this news when clearly its a big fuss over nothing. This country just loves to destroy celebrities lives. Perhaps people should pay more attention to their own lives.
Comment by Carina on February 10 17:26

disappointed to hear all this as I thought they were a very sound and close couple- unfortunately this is what a lot of men are like ... however someone like Vernon ought to know this would be found out eventually - him being a major household name etc I really hope for both their sakes and the children too that this is just a 'blip' and not the start of something more serious
Comment by Liz on February 10 18:34

So hard - this recently happened to me and tho I am trying, I just don't trust him. I don't know where it will go, but am not prepared to throw 25 years of commitment away without trying to get over it, but time will tell. The lack of respect is really painful and saying it's nothing but flirting just makes it worse. If you are hiding it... you know its wrong. I would never do that to my husband as I am 100% committed. It hurts when that isn't reciprocated. I wish them luck.
Comment by Jane on February 10 19:00

Tess should listen to her heart and nothing or no one else i would like to see them together and still married, but i do know what i would do if my husband did this to me.
Comment by claire on February 10 19:24

I am disapointed I always really liked Vernon. At least no one has come forward saying they have been sleeping with him yet, maybe it is just a daft mistake and he will behave himself from now on!
Comment by Naomi on February 10 19:54

This sort of behaviour is not harmless, it's often the tip of the iceberg and typical of bored people who think they deserve more.It's so sad the damage, often irreparable, that's done to a relationship as a result. Ask anyone on the receiving end how much pain and humiliation they suffer. I was totally disillusioned after my experience of dating sites as I encountered so many married men whose wives didn't understand or claimed to have open relationships.The technology of mobile phones, internet and messenger just make it far too easy for people to contact others 'flirt' then progress to meeting up, affairs etc. Too many people lack self restraint let alone faithfullness to partners.
Comment by Loraine on February 10 19:55

Will Vernon turn out to be our very own Tiger Woods....?
Comment by Louise on February 10 21:15

don't have a lot of sympathy for her, met her in the summer she was so stuck up and wouldnt talk to us lowly public!! hes so down to earth. maybe shes no fun any more for vernon!!
Comment by sue on February 10 21:21

Vernon has been a very silly boy but I don't think for one minute Tess will let him off that easily. I have great faith that the two of them can work it out. Good Luck
Comment by Susan on February 10 21:53

NOOOOOOOOO If he had not been found out about the texting he would have taken it further, if he has'nt already, who knows i was shocked to see the head lines and always thought him to be a decent guy and family man.I enjoyed to watch both of them on TV I hope Tess can forgive because everyone deserves a second chance. but only one.
Comment by R. FARROW on February 11 10:37

They will start as soon as you give them a child.
They need to get another one pregnant, etc.
Don't you think it's true?
Always looking for something in hiding, demanding respect for their private live whereas we consider him as a part of ours.
And nothing constitutes adultery. Don't shout at them!!! It is not good for your future together.
Comment by syl on February 11 10:58

You all seem to be crucifying him over a few stupid emails and texts. Who hasn't flirted with colleagues or mate's? This happens all the time in a work place, he's not the first and he won't be the last.
It isn't as if he slept or even kissed any of them which would be wrong.
People need to get over it and get a life.
Comment by Dawn on February 11 16:24

feel so sorry for Tess..even tho people may say its just texting I understand, my partner of 15 years has done the same thing, texted a girl he works with (well over friendly,flirty) it does hurt and im sorry to say the trust does go, you think you know this person but then you realise you don't...horrible stuff

Comment by Nik Lud on February 12 09:10

I feel really really bad for Tess. I have done similar things and it is taking it's toll right now. I was suprised to read this article yesterday because it is so close to what has happened with me and my girlfriend and so similar.
She has read similar things and I can really, truly see it from both sides of the fence.
Tess will be very hurt by what she has read, but, and not just because I am a man, and in no way am I justifying Vernon's actions, but he manned up and admitted to more than she read.
I know exactly what he means when he says he feels like a weight has been lifted. He obviously knew if Tess read it she would be hurt, but in the moment obviously thought 'what is a few harmless words'.

Luckily for them two, not only will the public be willing them to stay together, they have marriage and kids, a lot more to hold onto than I have; a relationship.
Vernon will definately be learning a hard lesson right now, his family on the line and I'm sure he will learn from the terrible mistake and never make one like it again.
I know I won't. I lost, and I deserve it, but there is one thing positive to come out of this for me, and that is the hard lesson I have learnt. I surely won't be making the mistake again with anyone else!
I sincerely hope they pull through....
Comment by Mark on February 12 10:20

totally disappointed in vernon poor tess why must he spoil a wonderful life sad man vernan
Comment by ishbel on February 12 13:06

Seriously....if even Tess Daly's husband can't keep himself from wandering there is no hope for any of us! Tess is gorgeous, funny and inteligent and if that's not enought to stop Vernon from doing this kind of thing then she should tell him to get lost! Jeez...men..
Comment by Catherine on March 04 12:48