Can a confidence coach really turn you into a Karren Brady-alike? Marie Claire's self-esteem expert Judi James thinks so. She tells us her top tips for success here
Can a confidence coach really turn you into a Karren Brady-alike? Marie Claire’s self-esteem expert Judi James thinks so. She tells us her top tips for success here
‘It makes you feel and look better and it lifts your mood,’ says confidence coach Judi James. It’ll make the people around you respond in a more positive way gives a great lasting impression.
‘It’s important to show a confident face to the world, even at times when you are feeling less confident inside,’ says Judi. She prescribes daily ‘positive thinking’ (think Muhammad Ali’s famous quote ‘I am the greatest’!)
Treat yourself to some ‘lovely relaxing clothes’, Judi suggests.
Set goals, and make sure you achieve them, says Judi. This will make you feel successful
Bad things can happen in life, but we have to learn to cope with them and do something about it, says Judi ‘grow some resilience!’
Avoid that bloated feeling after a junk food binge and take care of yourself with a balanced diet says Judi. ‘By doing so, you’re sending a message to ‘you’ that you ‘like yourself!’.
Tell friends how good they look, ‘paying open and honest compliments’ suggests Judi – this all helps build inner confidence.
Doing ‘something daring’ can help you become more fearless and ‘remind you that you’re more than other people think you are’.
‘Go to places with the intention of speaking and joining in,’ says Judi, this way, you are forced to come out of your shell.
‘Look in that mirror, admire yourself, and think about the positives,’ says Judi.
This is about bringing your focus to the inside of your body, ‘sit or stand up straighter to allow the core to stretch to full size.
‘If you don’t like the way you look or certain parts of your body, stop staring at them,’ says Judi. Learn to love yourself, even your faults. Once you can do that, confidence will come more naturally.
We all know we feel better after spending time with the people closest to us – so make sure you do it! Judi says, ‘phone one friend every day’.
You really don’t need to take yourself too seriously in life – so don’t! Judi says, ‘remind yourself on a regular basis ‘its fun!’.
Okay so your colleagues might think youve gone mad, but talking to yourself to cheer yourself up can improve confidence levels, says Judi.
Dont give up on what you believe in, and trust on what you know you can do and achieve.
Push yourself further than your fears, recommends Judi. That means joining in at karaoke, taking a chance and talking to a stranger, or reaching for that dream job it could do your confidence the world of good.
Judi believes that acts of kindness and appreciation can improve self-esteem. Who said self-help was all about you?
Get more confidenceboosting tips and in Judi James Being Confident, published by Vermilion