We've rounded up a beautiful and cheese-free selection of wedding readings for your big day
Combing through wedding readings for your big day? It’s one of those wedding planning tasks that you can’t really rush. You are, after all, looking for a collection of words that sum up the relationship between you and your significant other in a meaningful (but ideally non-cheesy) way.
Is that best reflected in a Shakespearean sonnet (a traditional wedding reading choice) or an extract from Winnie the Pooh? A droll but meaningful song lyric or a bit of William Wordsworth?
These days, pretty much anything goes (though if you’re getting married in a church it’s worth sounding out your priest first, as some might veto a very modern wedding reading) which makes the selection of wedding readings to choose from pretty extensive.
To get you started, we’ve picked fourteen of our favourites.
1) Extract from Captain Correlli’s Mandolin by Louis de Bernières
‘Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being in love, which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Those that truly love, have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two.’
Why we love it: it’s beautiful and meaningful without being too cheesy (the ideal wedding reading mix) and there’s also extra significance if you loved the book.
2) Bob Marley on love…
‘She’s not perfect – you aren’t either, and the two of you may never be perfect together – but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break – her heart. So don’t hurt her, don’t change her, don’t analyse and don’t expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she’s not there.’
Why we love it: the simplicity of this wedding reading makes it a great choice for couples with a low cheese tolerance. Also ideal for Bob Marley fans.
3) I carry your heart by E.E. Cummings
‘I carry your heart with me (i carry it in my heart) I am never without it (anywhere I go you go, my dear; and whatever is done by only me is your doing, my darling)
I fear no fate (for you are my fate, my sweet) I want no world (for beautiful you are my world, my true)
and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant and whatever a sun will always sing is you
Here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that’s keeping the stars apart
I carry your heart (I carry it in my heart)‘
Why we love it: E.E Cummings does excellent wedding readings.
4) Extract from The Good Morrow by John Donne
‘I wonder by my troth, what thou and I
Did, till we loved? Were we not weaned till then?
But sucked on country pleasures, childishly?
Or snorted we in the Seven Sleepers’ den?
‘Twas so; but this, all pleasures fancies be;
If ever any beauty I did see,
Which I desired, and got, ’twas but a dream of thee.’
Why we love it: Donne is another solid wedding reading choice. The whole poem works just as well as a wedding reading, but if you want something shorter this is a particularly beautiful extract.
5) Letter from Johnny Cash to June Carter (1994)
‘We get old and get used to each other. We think alike. We read each others’ minds. We know what the other wants without asking. Sometimes we irritate each other a little bit.
Maybe sometimes take each other for granted. But once in a while, like today, I meditate on it and realise how lucky I am to share my life with the greatest woman I ever met.’
Why we love it: it captures the simple joy of finding your soulmate (though anyone who’s seen Walk The Line might hope for an easier marriage than theirs)
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6) ‘Us Two’ from Now We Are Six by A. A. Milne
Wherever I am, there’s always Pooh,
There’s always Pooh and Me.
Whatever I do, he wants to do,
‘Where are you going today?’ says Pooh:
‘Well, that’s very odd ‘cos I was too.
Let’s go together,’ says Pooh, says he.
‘Let’s go together,’ says Pooh…
‘Let’s look for dragons,’ I said to Pooh.
‘Yes, let’s,’ said Pooh to Me.
We crossed the river and found a few-
‘Yes, those are dragons all right,’ said Pooh.
‘As soon as I saw their beaks I knew.
That’s what they are,’ said Pooh, said he.
‘That’s what they are,’ said Pooh.
‘Let’s frighten the dragons,’ I said to Pooh.
‘That’s right,’ said Pooh to Me.
‘I’m not afraid,’ I said to Pooh,
And I held his paw and I shouted ‘Shoo!
Silly old dragons!’ – and off they flew.
‘I wasn’t afraid,’ said Pooh, said he,
‘I’m never afraid with you.’
So wherever I am, there’s always Pooh,
There’s always Pooh and Me.
‘What would I do?’ I said to Pooh,
‘If it wasn’t for you,’ and Pooh said: ‘True,
It isn’t much fun for One, but Two,
Can stick together,’ says Pooh, says he.
‘That’s how it is,’ says Pooh.
Why we love it: it’s very sweet, and great if you and your husband / wife want something light.
7) Sonnet 116 by William Shakespeare
‘Let me not to the marriage of true minds
Admit impediments. Love is not love
Which alters when it alteration finds,
Or bends with the remover to remove:
O no; it is an ever-fixed mark,
That looks on tempests, and is never shaken;
It is the star to every wandering bark,
Whose worth’s unknown, although his height be taken.
Love’s not Time’s fool, though rosy lips and cheeks
Within his bending sickle’s compass come;
Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks,
But bears it out even to the edge of doom.
If this be error and upon me proved,
I never writ, nor no man ever loved.‘
Why we love it: sometimes there’s a reason why a wedding reading is really popular. As poems about love go, our Will is hard to beat.
8) I wanna be yours by John Cooper-Clarke
‘I wanna be your vacuum cleaner
breathing in your dust
I wanna be your Ford Cortina
I will never rust
If you like your coffee hot
let me be your coffee pot
You call the shots
I wanna be yours
I wanna be your raincoat
for those frequent rainy days
I wanna be your dreamboat
when you want to sail away
Let me be your teddy bear
take me with you anywhere
I don’t care
I wanna be yours
I wanna be your electric meter
I will not run out
I wanna be the electric heater
you’ll get cold without
I wanna be your setting lotion
hold your hair in deep devotion
Deep as the deep Atlantic ocean
that’s how deep is my devotion.’
Why we love it: If you want to tickle your guests with a funny wedding reading rather than have them weeping in the pews, then this is a good pick.
9) Extract from A Farewell to Arms by Ernest Hemingway
‘At night, there was the feeling that we had come home, feeling no longer alone, waking in the night to find the other one there, and not gone away; all other things were unreal. We slept when we were tired and if we woke the other one woke too so one was not alone. Often a man wishes to be alone and a woman wishes to be alone too and if they love each other they are jealous of that in each other, but I can truly say we never felt that. We could feel alone when we were together, alone against the others. We were never lonely and never afraid when we were together.’
Why we love it: it’s subtler than your average ‘I love you’ wedding reading.
10) Extract from Blue-eyed Devil by Lisa Kleypas
‘I no longer believed in the idea of soul mates, or love at first sight. But I was beginning to believe that a very few times in your life, if you were lucky, you might meet someone who was exactly right for you. Not because he was perfect, or because you were, but because your combined flaws were arranged in a way that allowed two separate beings to hinge together.’
Why we love it: this would also work nicely as one of those intros for guests to read when they’re waiting for the bride to arrive.
11) Wild Awake by Hilary T. Smith
‘People are like cities: We all have alleys and gardens and secret rooftops and places where daisies sprout between the sidewalk cracks, but most of the time all we let each other see is is a postcard glimpse of a skyline or a polished square. Love lets you find those hidden places in another person, even the ones they didn’t know were there, even the ones they wouldn’t have thought to call beautiful themselves.’
Why we love it: It’s the perfect length for a wedding reading and a lovely extended simile.
12) Extract from Every Day by David Levithan
‘This is what love does: It makes you want to rewrite the world. It makes you want to choose the characters, build the scenery, guide the plot. The person you love sits across from you, and you want to do everything in your power to make it possible, endlessly possible. And when it’s just the two of you, alone in a room, you can pretend that this is how it is, this is how it will be.’
Why we love it: beautiful but not too flowery
13) Albert Einstein on Relativity
‘Gravitation cannot be held responsible for people falling in love. How on earth can you explain in terms of chemistry and physics so important a biological phenomenon as first love? Put your hand on a stove for a minute and it seems like an hour. Sit with that special girl for an hour and it seems like a minute. That’s relativity.’
Why we love it: again this one’s not too flowery – and great if you’re marrying a scientist.
14) Delirium by Lauren Oliver
‘Love: a single word, a wispy thing, a word no bigger or longer than an edge. That’s what it is: an edge; a razor. It draws up through the centre of your life, cutting everything in two. Before and after. The rest of the world falls away on either side.‘
Why we love it: sometimes the simplest readings are the best.