If anal turns you on, you are not alone

Words by Stina Sanders

In fact, a study found that the number one sex act which caused female orgasms was anal sex. According to fivethirtyeight, 94% of women orgasm when they receive anal. Whereas only 64% of women orgasm through penile-vaginal penetration. (Sorry guys – we were faking it!)

Anal sex has steadily been on the rise over the last two decades. According to an anal sex study by the Journal of Sexual Medicine, in the 90s only 33% of any age demographic admitted to having tried it. Today, it’s 46 percent. So that’s a 13% increase in the number of women who are giving the back passage a go.

For me anal sex has always been a turn on. And like anyone new to anal, I did my research and learnt quickly that whatever you do, you must: Lube, relax and enjoy!

That advice has seen me well and I have had no problems nor horror stories from participating in anal despite suffering with IBS. That’s Irritable Bowel Syndrome, in case you didn’t know. 1 in 5 people have IBS which is a chronic condition which causes cramps, bloating, gas, constipation and diarrhoea.

Most of my days are spent with people asking me if I’m being sick, because I spend half of my life in the bathroom, when really I’m opening my bowels.

They’ll ask, ‘Are you ok? Are you being sick?’

YES THAT’S IT. SICK. I’M BEING SICK. YOU CAN’T HELP ME – SO PLEASE GO AWAY AND LET ME SH- SORRY, BE SICK!

Yeah it’s not great, especially when your favourite fetish is anal sex!

Of course, anal is not everyone’s thing, and if you do want to try it but have IBS, here are a few things you should know beforehand …

How to have anal sex with IBS

anal sex advice

Sort yourself out

Please for the love of god, go to the loo beforehand! We’ve all heard the stories of just how messy it can get – so why risk it? Go to the bathroom and scrub up nicely.

Prepare for the worst

Anal sex can irritate your colon and trigger muscular contractions, which in turn can make you go running for the loo. However, there have been some studies that anal can also relieve IBS. It’s all trial and error – you just need to try and see if it works for you.

Be strategic

Time when you eat and choose what you eat carefully. You do not want to have an urge to shit yourself halfway through the act. Nor do you want your partner to pass out after you’ve passed wind.

You should probably tell the person you’re dating after a while

No one likes surprises. Be open and honest – you’ll be amazed how that will make you feel more comfortable.

Relax

Which leads me on to this point; If you’re not comfortable with your partner, I suggest you stop what you’re doing and call it a day. To have sex you need to feel relaxed, especially when you’re doing anal. A certain amount of stretching needs to happen and that’s not going to happen if you’re tensing.

Lube, Lube, Lube!

I honestly cannot say this enough: use lube! And yes you’ll need to keep reapplying as you go. The more lubricant the easier and nicer it will feel.

Last but not least…

Enjoy yourself! Your first time should be slow, fun and pain free. If it’s not, at least you can say you tried it and that (hopefully) you didn’t shit yourself!

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