What are your thoughts about masturbation when you’re in a relationship?

Let's not beat around the bush

Happy international masturbation month! No, we didn’t know it existed either but apparently it does so let’s get talking about self-love now, shall we?

Considering that some people prefer masturbation to sex and that Sweden even has a specific word for female masturbation, it’s clearly a topic of interest.

And, although the solo act can seem like something for yourself, what are its implications when you’re in a relationship?

Sexual pleasure brand TENGA polled 2,000 UK adults about their thoughts on masturbation when it came to their relationship and the results are particularly eye-opening.

Nearly half of millennials say they’re comfortable talking openly about masturbation, compared with 26% of Gen X-ers and 20% of baby boomers.

85% of people in relationships said they were comfortable with their other half masturbating with 78% saying it’s OK for their partner to masturbate because it’s a natural thing to do, and 60% say it’s OK as they do it too. And, a fifth of those who masturbate without their partner’s knowledge (22%) want to be more open it with their partner.

More than four in five (83%) of British people in a relationship say they masturbate when they are alone, and 51% of say their other half is aware of it.

What do you think? Is it really an issue when it comes to relationships!? Perhaps it’s because some would take it as a sign that they weren’t satisfying their partner sexually – so what are the reasons behind people’s self-love habits?

The most common reason for masturbating? It’s pretty obvious, no? It’s to achieve sexual pleasure while alone (52%).

Interestingly, under 35s also use masturbation as a sex-positive tool to explore their own desires and preferences or to feel comfortable with their own body. One in ten also feel that it helps improve their sexual performance in general, too. And, 57% of British adults believe masturbation has positive health effects on them.

According to the study, over half of Brits polled feel that talking about masturbation is still taboo but isn’t it time that we embrace getting to know our bodies and our preferences? After all, it’s the safest and longest relationship you’re ever going to be in.

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