We asked writers from around the world to explain why they think we need to #BREAKFREE from others' approval - this is what they had to say...
MELISA GREENFIELD (@THISLITTLEMELL)
If you have ever found yourself not wearing something because youíre scared other people wonít like it: Stop. If youíve ever denied liking One Direction or any other band just because youíre worried your music loving friends will judge you: Stop. In fact, if you've ever stopped yourself from doing anything because other people wouldn't approve: Stop. Because it really doesnít matter.
All that matters - all that ever matters - is that you like it. Life is about making memories, not dwelling on the fact someone doesnít appreciate something as much as you do.Ever heard the phrase 'you canít please everyone, so donít even try'? Well, I couldnít agree with it more.
SHANNON HODGE (@SHANHODGE)
'My daughter had to delete a picture of us both sheíd uploaded to Facebook the other day because she said it didnít get any likes,' laughed a colleague of mine recently. But although my colleague could laugh it off, I couldnít help but think how damaging it must be to grow up in a world that measures your success by the double tap of a stranger's finger on a phone screen.
We live in a world where our every movement Ė from tanned hot-dog-leg-beach-selfies to promotions at work Ė is documented online, with the (unadmitted) hope that your life will be leaving a few others a little green with envy. It's a world where people stage-manage their lifestyles, to appear online looking considerably better, richer and more worthy than others.
But when a successful Youtuber with a teenage fan base shows a new £5000 handbag every month in a Ďsmall haulí video, or a bikini-clad model holding a packet of tea in front of a crystal blue ocean pops up on Instagram, we have to recognise that we are being fed an unattainable reality.
Just last week, ChildLine has reported that 35,244 of their 2014/15 counselling sessions were related to low self-esteem and unhappiness. One 13-year-old even told a counsellor: 'I hate myself. When I look at other girls online posting photos of themselves it makes me feel really worthless and ugly. I'm struggling to cope with these feelings and stay in my bedroom most of the time.'
Inner discontent gets to us all at some point. Weíre always thinking we should be better, smarter, prettier, faster, stronger. We set high standards for ourselves and hate it when we donít achieve them - ignoring the amazing qualities we already have, to try and be more like the people we see online. In other words, we're wishing our own lives away for someone elseís.
But with the bad comes the good. The internet is full of inspiring communities of women having honest discussions about positive things. So it's time to unfollow the people who make you feel insecure, take yourself away from the negativity and ultimately, #BreakFree from social mediaís warped reality. Follow the people that feed your soul (our #BreakFree ambassadors are a good place to start), read things that expand your mind and use your voice to write for what you believe in. Because, honestly? Youíre worth more than a heavily-filtered selfie anyway.LACHANE HARLEY (@CHANEHARLEY)
Warped self-perception is nothing new. In fact, itís even more common than we think. Doveís survey last year concluded that on average, 'over half (54%) of women globally agree that when it comes to how they look, they are their own worst beauty critic', and research from the University of Buffalo found that women who base their self-worth on their appearance are more likely to post pictures of themselves in order to feel validated. All we need now is a statistic revealing how much selfies of other people make us criticise ourselves, and what have we got? Yep - one clear cut, social-media-shaped downward spiral.
BEX HAMILTON (@THISBEXISONFIRE)
When Instagram created a photo-sharing network back in 2010, Iíd bet their leading intention wasnít to make people feel rubbish about themselves. But fast forward nearly six years of holiday snapshots, avocado-dominated breakfasts and enough #fitspo posts to make you move into the gym for good, and here we are anyway. Weíve all had the thrill of spotting someone we admire liking our latest post; whether itís a thumbs up to a new pair of shoes or a heavily filtered bikini shot. So itís safe to say that by posting a photo to our favourite social network, weíre all know we're just seeking everyone elseís approval. So why do I keep posting?
Perhaps itís because I canít let go of the fear that Iím being continually judged on the type of person I am. Those seemingly insignificant photos donít just tell everyone my latest shopping purchases or what I got up to at Christmas; they reveal aspects of my personality that I can only hope are appealing to other people. Last year, I posted an image of me completing a run for charity, arms spread, victorious. No one needs to know that five minutes before I was struggling for breath and cursing myself as I struggled to the finish line, right?
Wrong. If Iíve learnt anything in the last few years, itís that worrying about being liked is the least productive thing ever. Getting positive feedback five minutes after an event doesnít give you the thrill you get from living in the moment. Instead, it just inhibits you from doing the things you really want to do Ė whether thatís travelling the world, learning something new or spending your time watching Netflix and eating crisps.
That's why this year, Iím vowing to stay the same old me, flaws and all. Iím going to spend less of my time worrying about what people think. Iím going to be good at my job without worrying about otherís views on my career. Iím going to continue running and embrace healthy eating - not to boost my Instagram followers but to keep myself sane. Iím going to say Ďnoí more often, stay in my pyjamas when I don't want to wear clothes, switch off my phone and catch up on rubbish telly. Because my happiness shouldnít relate to other opinions and neither should yours.
MEL CARPENTER (@CARDIOCENTRALUK)
I work in the Fitness Industry - Iím an instructor, a former pro dancer and a fitness presenter. With each of those titles comes an immense amount of pressure - to look good, sound good and be an all round successful individual. Itís a recipe for disaster if you suffer from low self-esteem and a desperate need for approval from others.
At certain points in my career, I have encountered both. There's the pressure to be skinnier, to wear the latest dance gear, to have the latest gadgets... it's a neverending list.
But when you are online, itís easy to portray everything that is expected of you, no matter what mood you're in or how crappy a day youíve had. All you have to do is angle your camera and find the right filter, then wham - you've got the perfect life. That's as long as your followers agree.
And that's the biggest pressure of all: Pleasing other people.
Iím lucky, I have a great family who are very supportive, a fantastic set of friends, and a wonderful husband. But not everybody is so lucky. I work with a lot of ladies who suffer from low self-esteem and anxiety. Some are on medication for depression and have come to me for help.
I see myself in some of them - the need for approval, whether it's by changing the way they look, or by posting certain statuses on Social Media.
LAURA PEARSON-SMITH (@LPEARSONSMITH)
Social networks have stopped being about making friends, and have become instead more like a game of one-upmanship, and itís a game that we have all played.
Whether it is hearts on Twitter and Instagram or likes on Facebook, we all need that approval - whether we like to admit it or not. We post things online to be seen and to be admired - we want people to approve the way we look and the way we live our lives and want to emulate it - otherwise why post it? We donít post photos of our full laundry baskets or faces covered in spaghetti bolognese. And while there is nothing wrong with this in theory, we have to understand it for what it is: a game.
Except, that for me itís also a business. Itís how I make my living as a blogger. I need to inspire people enough to go out and buy the things that I like and use. Nobody wants to copy someone whose timelines are filled with stories of cleaning up last nightís drunken antics, or photos of discarded takeaway boxes.
But problems set it when we let our online activities dictate our offline lives. I have been guilty of this in the past - Iíve chosen sushi for lunch over what I really want (beans on toast) because it'll look prettier online. We should have left our need for approval and popularity back in the playground, but instead we're still there. And we're taking square-shaped photos of the climbing frame.